Drink a glass of wine. “Alcohol depresses the central nervous system, which dulls physical sensation and helps delay ejaculation,” says Kerner. Plus, wine contains resveratrol, a chemical that helps boost sex hormones, according to research conducted by Northwestern University Medical School. Just limit yourselves to one drink each, otherwise you may conk out during the action.
Try the squeeze method. This one takes a bit of patience and practice, but done right, your guy will be able to rein it in when he’s overly excited. Right before he’s about to climax, have him withdraw and then you should try lightly squeezing the head of his penis for several seconds. “This will prevent him from achieving orgasm, but it won’t put a damper on his arousal,” says Lloyd.
Help him relax. Relaxation techniques, such as massage, are often recommended as a part of foreplay because reducing stress can help your man gain greater control over his body. “A man who is more ‘in tune’ with his body is going to be better able to do things like control his ejaculation than a guy who is stressed,” notes Yvonne Fulbright, Ph.D., author of The Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking. She recommends having your partner try this deep breathing/massage technique, which is similar to how one would breathe during meditation or yoga class: Have your man lie on his back, knees bent with his feet flat on the floor. Then, have him slowly breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth, while he rubs his hands together until they’re warm. Next, he should place his hands on top of his stomach and slowly massage the area, while inhaling and exhaling. “If he tries this exercise two times a week, slowly building up to once daily, he’ll be better able to manage anxiety and slow down the pace of sex,” says Fulbright.
Numb your pleasure. Condoms get a bad rap for desensitizing sex, but if you want to make every minute count, that’s exactly the point. Just be sure to avoid buying packages boasting terms such as “thin,” “sensitive” and “bare,” which aren’t thick enough to create a desensitizing barrier. If you’re not into condoms, try a numbing agent—just make sure it’s FDA-approved. Kerner suggests Promescent, an over-the-counter desensitizing spray commonly used to treat premature erectile disorder. “Spray it on the head of the penis and rub it in, and it immediately absorbs into the skin, helping guys last longer,” he says.
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