Have you ever had a girl friend who completely forgot about you as soon as she got into a relationship … until they had their first big fight, that is?
Quality friends stand out from the crowd. They value one another and treat their friendships with the utmost respect, rather than getting jealous and catty when one of them gets a guy. Once you begin attracting quality friendships, you’ll start to soon attract quality men (and potential life partners) as well.
But how do you know if a man can live up to your expectations? That’s where quality gal pals come in. They help you stay grounded in your values, gain clarity, keep healthy boundaries and perspectives (when love has a way of clouding perspective), and allow you to vent without blowing up at your partner. Not to mention, it’s good to have a shoulder to cry on when going through a breakup.
Worried that these friendships will take away from your time with your man? In fact, it’s the opposite. Having friendships outside the relationship reduces stress and conflict for you as a couple. So how do you keep your female friendships strong during your relationship?
1. Show how important your girl friends are to your man. Make it very clear how important your female friends are to you so he won’t see them as superficial gossip sessions you can do without. When he understands that much of your confidence (that attracted him in the first place) and refreshing healthy perspectives are nurtured by these friends, he will value them too.
2. Designate “girl time.” Make time (once or twice per month) to get together with the girls to talk, go to the spa, work out, see a chick flick or simply watch movies at home with popcorn. Choose activities that are non-threatening to a relationship so avoid bars, alcohol and co-ed get-togethers when your significant other is not with you.
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