Deidre Bassolino, TheQuestionable.com
If you don’t have a job, make yourself useful. Practice the skills you’ll need when you’re living on your own: do the laundry or cook dinner. If you’re not domestic, be the resident dog-walker or pick your siblings up from school. Your parents will appreciate the help, and it’ll keep you from feeling unproductive.
“I could do whatever I wanted in college!” I found myself saying that a lot when I moved back in with my parents. I felt like every time I breathed, someone was there to ask me what I was doing, where I was going, or who I was meeting. It was jarring after four years of answering to no one but myself, and I didn’t take to it well. The hard truth of post grad life? You’re not in college anymore.
If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one. I thought fighting with my parents to assert myself was acting like an adult, but my attitude just made them think that I was the same person I was back in high school. The more I fought to tell my parents that I was an adult, the less they believed me. Save yourself the trouble and talk to them instead.
If talking and trying to help your parents embrace your emerging adulthood isn’t cutting it, keep in mind that there is an end in sight. If you don’t want to be living with your parents until 35, trust me–you’ll find a way out of there. Whether it’s trying to recreate the undergrad glory days by tromping off to grad school (woo!) or entering the workforce, it’s only a matter of time before you’re striking out on your own again.
Finally, don’t resent your parents because you had to move back home. They were living their lives during the four years that you were away, too! You’re not the only one making sacrifices and dealing with dreams deferred. It’s important to keep things in perspective.