I don’t know about you, but I’ve nursed most of my breakups with Facebook stalking, Ben & Jerry’s, and a chaser of Tequila.
Apparently, the rich and famous have a better way of getting over an ex: hiring a heartbreak coach.
According to recent reports, singer Katy Perry has secured herself a personal heartbreak coach to get over her messy divorce with Russell Brand, and to aid her in making better relationship decisions (anyone, but John Mayer) in the future.
Oh celebrities! Sometimes they do the silliest things. But when you think about it, is hiring someone to coach you through heartache actually that crazy?
We have coaches for just about everything these days. There are life coaches and business coaches and financial coaches. And when it comes to relationships, the coach roster includes ones for dating, flirting, seduction, the list goes on. But Aurora Winter is a breed of coach I had never encountered until this week. She’s the kind of heartbreak coach that people like Katy Perry hire.
Winter wasn’t always a heartbreak coach. The death of her husband when she was just 31 inspired her to become the Eric Taylor of breakups.
Over the past twenty years, Winter has developed what she calls “red carpet rapid release coaching” for celebrities and the wealthy.
Just a few years after her husband passed away, Winter decided she wanted to get married again. She visualized the perfect partner and made a detailed list of all his qualities. Winter told me she prayed to bring this ideal soulmate to her. Then she began to have doubts. She realized that she wasn’t exactly ready to be the perfect mate herself. Winter was her own first client. She began coaching herself back to game-shape.
“As I worked on myself, I shifted from attracting men who didn’t have their act together to men who were at the top of their game, including: Noble Peace prize winner, Oscar winner, successful businessmen worth millions, men who are making a real difference in the world,” Winter said. She wouldn’t reveal the identities of these magical men, but she assured me they were very real.
And hence, a new career began.
Granted, Winter coached herself through a death, not a breakup. She recognizes there is a difference; still, she’s insistent that a heartbreak is a death of sorts, which means her clients go through something similar to grief coaching before they get back in the game.
“Grief is the loss of hopes and dreams and the death of a relationship is a death,” Winter said. “The longer you cherish those hopes and dreams, the longer your identity is entwined with that person and the more heartbreak there is.”
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