Teledildonics — sex toys that can be controlled via the Internet — have been around since the ’80s (though, in their multiple iterations, they never quite caught on…imagine a mechanical dildo plugged into your computer). Recently, however, advances in tech have given us plenty of opportunity to take the category much, much further.
Enter Durex’s new Funderwear, remote control undies that can be activated via a smartphone app. Their similarity to other remote control vibrators on the market (all of which have a much shorter remote range) make them a viable, best-of-both-worlds option for those looking to play around with new forms of cybersex and long-distance lovin’.
Remote control vibes can definitely be fun for couples. They can be the perfect way to spice up a sex life that’s become routine. They can be an ideal, lower-risk way to play around with exhibitionism. And, in the case of Funderwear, they can change the way you engage in long-distance cybersex.
But there are other considerations as well. After all, there can be too much of a good thing. Also, if you take your toys out in public (which many of these new products are designed to facilitate) what about the people around you? While the thrill of possibly getting caught is great, the person who catches you may be less than thrilled. PDA on that level is not for everyone.*
Here’s your etiquette guide for remote-control sex toys.
1. Set some ground rules. If you were about to engage in BDSM, you would set rules. If you were about to bring your monogamous life partner to a sex party, you would set rules. If you were thinking of trying a threesome, you would set rules. Playing with sex toys may seem less complicated, but when it comes to bringing your sex play to a public place, you should discuss certain things, like times when it is NOT okay to remotely activate your chica’s clitoris. (Business meetings. Church. The opera. Etc.)
2. Come up with a safe word. As an extension of the tip above, decide upon a safe word the pleasure-receiver can use (either in person or via text) if he or she is suddenly in a less-than-ideal environment for orgasms, if the constant vibrations become too damn much, or if the world implodes.
Check out more do’s and don’ts—including how to use the element of surprise—over at HowAboutWe!