If 50 Shades of Grey has you daydreaming about romantic encounters with BDSM-loving Christian, schedule a kinky session with your guy (you know, the one who isn’t a fictional character). Light BDSM activities can take you both into overdrive while fulfilling a fantasy or 10.
If you’ve fantasized about the erotic power play that an erotic spanking can deliver, test the waters with a beginner’s crop (this one features a leather size and soft faux fur side) or open hand. The slow, stinging strikes will warm you up for a long, steamy sex session AND give your guy a full view of your derrière. For a cheat sheet that includes tips on how to bring it up (which, let’s face it, can feel awkward) and a guide to different spanking sensations, click here.
Light bondage is another way to spice things up in the sack. Sexy cuffs, blindfolds, and entire kits are readily available online, or you can D.I.Y. it tonight with a scarf. For a sizzling twist, tie your guy’s wrists to the bed posts and drive him crazy with light kisses before going down on him to make him lose his mind. Feeling naughty? This might also be the time to give him a new hickey.
Consent is sexy, communication is key.
Before you begin play, you and your beau should establish clear boundaries. Don’t engage until you’ve taken time to talk limits, likes and dislikes, and safe words. And you should never feel ashamed to ask him to stop if something doesn’t feel right. For a guide to safe BDSM sex, click here.
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