Generally, I am of the opinion that Olivia Wilde is pretty cool. She’s mostly inoffensive, has made some movies I’ve enjoyed, and has a rockin’ sense of style (or at least a really good stylist). I had no idea exactly HOW cool she was, though, until I read a piece she recently wrote for Glamour detailing her do’s and don’ts for turning 30.
First, she’s one heck of a writer. Second, Olivia is hitting the big 3-0 in March—but she doesn’t consider it to be the end of the world. She’s not even worried about the weird black hole that seems to be Hollywood for ladies of a certain age. Instead, she calls it the “Cut the Bullsh*t and Go Be Awesome stage,” which is quite possibly the most wonderful turn of phrase I have ever read. Her pieces of advice generally fall under the umbrella of loving the skin you’re in, which might be a little tired as a topic at this point—but even so, they’re all definitely worth reminding yourself about from time to time. The best part? Most of them are applicable at pretty much any age. Sure they may be ultra-relevant at 30, but things like learning new skills are always a plus, no matter what age you are.
Here are a couple of my favorite excerpts; I highly, HIGHLY suggest that you head on over to Glamour and read the whole thing, though, because it’s wonderful. Seriously. You will absolutely NOT regret it.
- “DON’T freak out about all the brilliant people who accomplished more than you by 30. Yes, Einstein had discovered the theory of relativity by your age, and Emily Brontë had written Wuthering fu*#ing Heights, but honestly, what you achieve is far less important than what kind of human being you are. What do you want people to say at your funeral: ‘Olivia may have cured HIV, but she ran over my cat and drove away laughing’? No, thanks! I’d rather be a good person who makes people happy than a dick who wins a Nobel by 32.”
- “DON’T feel pressured to pop out kids. I love kids with a passion I usually reserve for hot cheese, miniature chairs, and Prince concerts, but I feel no stress to reproduce simply because of a fear of withering eggs. Wait for the right partner, and make sure you’re where you want to be in life before picking neighborhoods based on school districts. This is not to suggest you should live irresponsibly for the next 10 years, then expect to get knocked up when your chosen dude finally sneezes inside you. But you’ll never find the right baby-maker or enjoy baby-making if you’re doing it out of anxiety. Relax, be good to your body, and when the time is right, get busy.”
- “DO learn a new skill. You’ve already lived longer than most women in the thirteenth century, so why not look at your thirtieth as a rebirth? I started stand-up paddleboarding at 29 and consider it my baby step toward becoming a badass 30-something semipro surf goddess (as long as the sharks go vegan).”
- “DON’T be bogged down by your past. Saturn has now orbited the sun once since you’ve been alive; make this next go-round whatever you want it to be. Consider your baggage (bad boyfriends, job setbacks, body issues) lost by the airline of life, leaving you empty-handed at your new destination with only one choice: Go shopping.”
Be awesome, Bettys!
Lucia Peters is BettyConfidential’s senior editor.
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