5 Reasons Why He Won’t Marry You

You're getting tired of him waiting to be his wife, maybe he's scared to pop the question?

5 Reasons Why He Won’t Marry You

You’re getting tired of him waiting to be his wife, maybe he’s scared to pop the question?

-Marcelina Hardy

What Makes a Marriage Work?

You’ve been his girlfriend long enough and you’re ready to become his wife. The only problem is that he won’t ask you to marry him. Understanding why he won’t gets under your skin as much as you asking him why he won’t gets under his.

When you’re ready to take this next step in the relationship but he seems to take his old sweet time in the process, several reasons may be holding him back. The good news is that you can do something about it, so not all hope is lost.

Reason Number 1: Commitment Phobia

While he was okay with calling you his girlfriend, taking it to the next level of marriage is a whole other story for him. With marriage, it’s forever, and he may be scared of that. It’s the final commitment.

Does it mean he doesn’t love you enough to know he wants to be with you forever? Probably not. He’s just afraid that he may change his mind someday.

Have you thought about that yourself? That maybe someday you may wake up and think, “Gosh, I don’t like him anymore, I’ve made a mistake.

Want to know a secret though? It does happen. Couples work through it all the time because they know that at one time their love for each other was strong. Through commitment and rebuilding their marriage, their love reappears in a new but familiar way.

So how do you help your man with this issue? Talk to him. Ask him how he is feeling and what part of marriage and the commitment of it scares him. Is it this exact situation that makes him hesitate? Show him that you are committed to the love you share and with that commitment and devotion to each other, those times will be overcome.

Reason Number  2: Loss of Independence

Many men who are afraid of making the leap towards matrimony have an inaccurate image of marriage. They pick it up either from television, their parents or from friends’ parents. They’ve seen husbands’ being controlled by their wives and looking depressed because of it.

As you know, no one wants to be in a marriage where one person controls the other. Marriage is a partnership and couples should always remember that when they make that step into it.

You can help your boyfriend by telling him some of your dreams and hopes of what you believe marriage will be like with him. Nothing pushy here but just for the fun of it will get him thinking about it too and will help him see that you may not be like wives that he has witnessed in the past.

Read 5 Reasons Why Your Guy Won’t Commit

Reason Number 3: Afraid of Divorce

With the divorce rate in the United States at 50% and increasing, this fear is rational. He’s probably experienced divorce in his life and knows how devastating it is for everyone involved.

Communication is important in a healthy relationship. Whenever there is anything you believe is upsetting your boyfriend it’s good to talk it out with him.

Talk to him about what part of divorce bothers him. Does he feel that his parents or people in general don’t give working on marriage enough of a shot before throwing in the towel? Does he believe that divorce is inevitable in marriage? It’s important to talk to him to see what he believes about divorce and marriage so you know if he even plans to get married someday.

If he doesn’t plan to get married, this is something you’ll have to then cope with and decide if you want to move on from in your life.

Reason Number 4: Not Ready

People develop essential qualities to make them ready for the stage of marriage at different times. You may have developed all those qualities within a year, while it may take two or three for him. Note that it often takes men longer than women to reach the commitment level for marriage.

Knowing what to do with this situation is difficult. Waiting for someone who may or may not want to marry you can seem like a gamble. Such is the game of love though. You’ll need to decide if he is worth the wait.

After you are ready to marry him, you’ll have to look out for the signs that you arne’t wasting your time. You’ll have to ask if he has intentions on marrying, then as you move further into the relationship, if he can see marrying you someday and then further along if he wants to marry you. If he doesn’t say a word about marriage and just ignores your mentions of it, you may want to consider ending the relationship.

Reason  Number 5: He Just Doesn’t Want To

He’s fine with things as they are right now and he doesn’t want that to change. He believes that marriage will change everything and he is not willing to do that. He knows that you won’t stay with him if he tells you that , so when you ask him about it, he just smiles and says, “Oh, it’ll be when you least expect it.” yet that’s been the case for the last two years.

It’s time for the ultimatum. You can either pop the question yourself or just say, “We either get engaged now or we break up.”

Just be prepared for what happens next. Either this could be the end of your relationship or it could push him to marry you because he really doesn’t want to lose you. What you will get is an answer to the limbo you’ve been in for way too long.

marcelina hardy Marcelina Hardy is a relationship coach and freelance writer, who helps individuals solve relationship problems and improve their relationships.

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14 thoughts on “5 Reasons Why He Won’t Marry You

  1. Kimmiepoo11 says:

    These make very good sense, however what if there is talk of marriage, then he changes his mind and gives an excuse…then a few months later brings it up again"how she is the one for him", only to slide backwards and find an excuse again weeks later. it's very stressful.

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  2. Barbora Mátyás says:

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    After being in a relationship with him for 6 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spells, I had no choice but to try it, I mailed the spell caster and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before 2 days, that my ex will return to me before 3 days, he cast a love spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4:27PM. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there on the internet. Anybody could need the help of this spell caster, his email is (igbudutempleofsolutions@gmail.com or +2348103318340)

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  8. michelle says:

    Hello every one, I really want to share my testimony to the hearing of the general republic on this site, December 2013, I saw a post on a particular site shearing testimony on how the great spell caster brought back her ex who name is Nathaniel so I just see it common and i said let me see what will happen because my husband left me my three kids for another woman just like that, i and my husband was married for ten year living happily before i new what was going on, he left me and go for another woman so when i saw the post, i contacted the spell caster on his email and he told me i should not worry that my husband will come back to me in three days after once he finish casting the love spell and to my greatest surprise, i now have my husband back to me again and i want to use the medium to let every body know that this is real and if you are out here having this same problem please contact the great spell caster on his email now because he can do the unexpected. his email is drokoduwalovespelltemple@gmail.com I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK.

  9. Nicholas Zachary says:

    You guys must have seen a lot of write up like mine on the internet. Some of them are true and some i can't really say cos truthfully i din't know. It will be wrong for me to say they are not true because i wasn't the person who kept them on the internet so i dont have the ability to tell if something is true or not. I can tell you that is this,its best to believe every word written by someone who wrote about how METODO ACAMU help fix their problem with a spell cos i too have experienced his greatness first hand. METODO ACAMU is the only or i would say one of the few spell caster that still walk on the surface of this earth. Not everyone think this but i for one, think he is one of the remaining few spell caster that is still alive and helping people. I also think those who have had an experience with him can back me up on this. You can say casting a spell on someone you love is selfish or inhuman or stealing the person free will. But love spell doesn't work like that cos the person in question that you are casting a spell on, doesn't become a slave to you or to love. They only get to love you so dearly that they can lay their life for you. What ever any reader think of me i want you to know that i got what i wanted and my partner also did "love". I fell in love with my research partner. We have been working together for a long time and we have been through a lot together breakthrough, disappointments and everything you can think of. We closely observed our lives and came to a conclusion that we could be friend for life. Only that i wanted her to be more than just a friend. We were so close that it made other lab scientist think we were having an affair even our supervisor thought the same i wished to my star that we were having an affair because i loved her so much. She was undeniably beautiful with a great body and great smile that drives every man nuts. We will talk all night at my place after work. Because she lived in New Jersey and worked here in New York it was almost always impossible for her to return home cos we always finished from the lab so late at night. We would lie close to each talking about everything. I could hear her heart beat like she always wanted me to make a move me cos when i finally made the big move, not like she pulled oat her. I mean maybe i read the signs wrong or something that made me think she was falling for ut immediately but she did pull of. From there on she made us just work and nothing else not friend, not lovers just nothing. She was avoiding me, not picking my call and it was really killing believe me when you fall in love with a girl and it turns out that she is not picking your calls you dont know how hurtful it can be. I was puzzled, i could not rap it arround my head how a girl would like but still don't anything to do with you. We went on like that for eight months. I guess it was around that time i found Metodo Acamu contact on the internet and contacted him. METODO ACAMU help me cast a love spell with just and only the materials he asked me tp provide which i did. Though it took two weeks to complete the spell,he help made her love me the way she does right now. I suggest you all read other comment about METODO ACAMU you find on the internet. Though my testimony is not lengthen,i think i have said enough to make to those like me who have trust issues about spell casting believe that METODO ACAMU is the only one that can help you. He even asked me to bring the materials which he used to get my spell casted to his temple myself but i was too busy and was not ready to get a plane ticket to travel to get the spell casted when i could just wire the total cost for him to get the materials and aside that he is the expert in this things he would know where to find all the materials needed for the spell casting. For those people like me looking for help here is METODO ACAMU email contact you can use to reach him {metodoacamufortressx AT yahoo Dot com}

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  12. AshRavenxx says:

    Your advice about giving a guy an ultimatum is the WORST advice you could give to any woman. It is the equivalent of putting a gun to a guy’s head and screaming “Marry me or else!” See how hostile that action is? A woman shouldn’t have to go to that extreme. There should be enough communication in the relationship in which both the individuals know how their partner feels about marriage and whether their relationship is ready to get to that stage. If you can’t communicate your thoughts about marriage to your partner, you are in the wrong relationship. A man that is pressured to marry due to an ultimatum will end up feeling resentment towards his woman. For whatever reason, the guy isn’t ready to pop the question. And the wrong thing to do would be to force him to do it. It’s the worst way to begin a marriage. I have experience with this topic because I’ve been a writer that covers relationships and every aspect of love and dating for the last 15 years. Please ladies, have an honest and open discussion putting all your feelings on the table with your men. But ignore the advice that Marcelina Hardy gives you about ultimatums. They don’t work and it only leads you down a path of misery.

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