A Guide to His Equipment

The key things you need to know about his package and how it works.
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A Guide to His Equipment

The key things you need to know about his package and how it works.

-Amber Madison

things every girls should know about the penis

Penises. If you’re reading this article you’ve probably seen one before. Who are we kidding; maybe you’ve even seen two (or a few more)! No matter how many times you’ve encountered one, chances are, you’re not totally clear on why they do the things they do. Sure, we all get the basics, but the male anatomy is pretty different from ours and there are plenty of myths and wives’ tales floating around out there. So consider the following five points to be a primer: Everything you need to know about his package. Once you understand a little more about how his equipment works, the sex will only be better – for both of you.

1. Erectile difficulties happen.
It’s a fact of life: Guys can’t always get their penis to rise to the occasion. Maybe it’s nerves, a reaction to a medication or the result of having too much to drink. What you need to know is that it’s not a reflection of him not being attracted to you, not liking you or thinking you’re gross. How should you react when it happens? “If you’re with a guy and it happens occasionally, don’t make a big deal out of it,” says Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., author of Getting the Sex You Want. “If you make it an issue it can become an issue. The important thing to know is that a certain percentage of the time, the inability to get an erection is normal, for men of all ages.”  

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2. Premature ejaculation happens quite often.
According to Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of She Comes First, “As many as 30% of all men deal with premature ejaculation – which is defined as ‘not being able to maintain intercourse for more than one minute.’ If your guy falls into this third of the population, it doesn’t mean he’s selfish or lazy, it’s mainly a genetic issue.” No doubt, dating a premature ejaculator has its downsides, but it doesn’t mean your minute-man will remain one forever. You can actually train him to last longer. To do this, Dr. Nelson suggests that you “pay attention to when he starts to get stiffer, breathes deeper and moves in that way that lets you know that he’s almost there. Then slow things down, or even stop. Do something else, like kiss or change positions. Give him a few moments to gather himself, then slowly start again.” After a few of these “training sessions” he’ll learn how to calm himself down, and then your sex can start lasting a lot longer. If this doesn’t work and he’s still having trouble, Dr. Kerner suggests he go down on you for awhile first, so that by the time you actually start having sex you’re pretty close to orgasm yourself.


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  1. uptowngirl says:

    Good to know!

  2. jessica03 says:

    Good advice! I didn’t know men can ejaculate in a minute!

  3. lovesbetty says:

    Yup Jessica- they’re called two pump chumps.

  4. cremebrulee67 says:

    I was married to a 30 second man in my first marriage. And I do not care how long he went down on me before hand, all that did was get me hot and wanting him inside me, only for it to last 30 seconds or for about 3 or 4 thrusts. It was a contributing factor to our marriage ending after 16 years. But I dealt with it and was deprived for 16 years and decided that for the next 16 I wouldn’t be. Maybe I’m selfish, I dont’ know. But we had other problems too.

  5. Asha777 says:

    The profile of the guy in the picture looks significantly older than the woman… not that I am against mature relationships, but that picture just looks weird… anyone with me on this one??

  6. jessica03 says:

    asha777-hahaha! yeah i just realized that.

  7. xve777 says:

    cremebrulee67, I am a guy and do not understand your comment. Did you or did you not have a climax with oral sex? My wife always does and makes love making much better. Also ladies keep in mind that taking viagra sometimes takes the guy a very long time to climax and sometimes it just does not happen.

  8. AnnieO says:

    I’ve experience number 1 and the guy had no drinking problem or was on medication. I told him that he needed help in that department by bringing a sex toy in our act or to get help (medically) he ignored me saying nothing is wrong. He just couldn’t keep it up i left him on my second try as it was a waste of my time and the worst part about it he just wanted to keep doing it even though he was flaccid….I don’t care if i was being selfish but i don’t have any patience for a man to go down on me getting me hot and then after 5mins of contact he goes flaccid.

  9. WikkidLilGrrrl says:

    asha…when she says to him “give it to me daddy” she’s seriously talking about her dad LMAO

  10. pepsilove says:

    Iam in my late 50s and still like sex. but now my partner cant get it up anymore. we sat down and decided that this was not something that we could do with out. so we ordered a penis pump problem solved. Try it and you will see that this is not something that you can give up why on earth would you want to. Married for 31 years.

  11. GoEmily says:

    The comments here are a lot more interesting than the article, the most basic, generic of info. Unless you’re an adolescent girl (thus not reading this site anyway), can’t imagine anyone got anything out of this.

  12. anneschizandra says:

    why are there so MANY articles on how to please men? Or am I off because of sexual abuse issues and have an attitude?

  13. JJ212 says:

    As for #4, I have to disagree. I am an older women, let’s say close to 60, and I love sex. I go with a man who is younger than me. He has the biggest penis I have ever seen or had. This man is bigger soft than most men hard. I am a very small women, and it is hard for me to take all of him, but it feels so good when I do. And he knows how to work me, so I am satisfied when we are done. But I know he would be good no matter what size he was, because he knows how to please a women, and I know how to please him. We have very good sex life together. But I have had fairly good sex with smaller men, but most don’t care about pleasing a women, just themselves.

  14. 4leafclovr says:

    I have been with the same person for about 20 years, when we first met, of course the sex was fun and exciting but now it seems as though our Sex life is determined by him meaning if he wants it we have it if he don’t want it we don’t have it…and it only happens if we watch Porn and have some type of Sex Toy that joins too give me both Penetration and Orgasm and while I am having this Orgasm he will in turn cum on himself…I am left feeling like a weirdo and I personally don’t like a big, plastic, cold, hard, gadget inside of me every time I want to be intimate with my partner. I still am young my body is still beautiful I myself am very pleased with my looks and I know if I want to I could cheat. I have mentioned often to him that I am not all happy with the “new” way of doing it Making Love yeah ok…but he just doesn’t get it.

  15. ianianian says:

    What I read here seems a tad one-sided. In the premature section it says that if a guy cant get his girl to orgasm before he cums that he should go down on her before hand to MAKE SURE it happens. But if the guy has blue balls from the woman not fulfilling her end of things, its OK, and the woman shouldn’t feel obligated.. wha?! both parties should get an orgasm. if its OK for the man to just “take matters into his own hands, why not the woman?

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