A Guide to His Equipment
The key things you need to know about his package and how it works.
Penises. If you’re reading this article you’ve probably seen one before. Who are we kidding; maybe you’ve even seen two (or a few more)! No matter how many times you’ve encountered one, chances are, you’re not totally clear on why they do the things they do. Sure, we all get the basics, but the male anatomy is pretty different from ours and there are plenty of myths and wives’ tales floating around out there. So consider the following five points to be a primer: Everything you need to know about his package. Once you understand a little more about how his equipment works, the sex will only be better – for both of you.
1. Erectile difficulties happen.
It’s a fact of life: Guys can’t always get their penis to rise to the occasion. Maybe it’s nerves, a reaction to a medication or the result of having too much to drink. What you need to know is that it’s not a reflection of him not being attracted to you, not liking you or thinking you’re gross. How should you react when it happens? “If you’re with a guy and it happens occasionally, don’t make a big deal out of it,” says Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., author of Getting the Sex You Want. “If you make it an issue it can become an issue. The important thing to know is that a certain percentage of the time, the inability to get an erection is normal, for men of all ages.”
2. Premature ejaculation happens quite often.
According to Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of She Comes First, “As many as 30% of all men deal with premature ejaculation – which is defined as ‘not being able to maintain intercourse for more than one minute.’ If your guy falls into this third of the population, it doesn’t mean he’s selfish or lazy, it’s mainly a genetic issue.” No doubt, dating a premature ejaculator has its downsides, but it doesn’t mean your minute-man will remain one forever. You can actually train him to last longer. To do this, Dr. Nelson suggests that you “pay attention to when he starts to get stiffer, breathes deeper and moves in that way that lets you know that he’s almost there. Then slow things down, or even stop. Do something else, like kiss or change positions. Give him a few moments to gather himself, then slowly start again.” After a few of these “training sessions” he’ll learn how to calm himself down, and then your sex can start lasting a lot longer. If this doesn’t work and he’s still having trouble, Dr. Kerner suggests he go down on you for awhile first, so that by the time you actually start having sex you’re pretty close to orgasm yourself.