Blogger Fakes Pregnancy and Infant Death

Beccah Beushausen, a blogger, fooled thousands with her lie about a pregnancy and infant death.

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Blogger Fakes Pregnancy and Infant Death

Beccah Beushausen fooled thousands with her lie

-Stephanie Elliot

Blogger Beccah Beushausen When Beccah Beushausen blogged about her pregnancy and her fetus who was terminally ill, she was inundated with support from the blogging community. Turns out, Beccah was not pregnant and had created the whole story in order to (one can only assume) gain an audience, solicit blogging comments, and get sympathy from readers.

With real-life blogging tragedies, such as the Spohr family, who lost their beloved daughter, Maddie, in April, and Matt Logelin’s blog, who is raising his daughter alone after his wife Liz died the day after childbirth, one would think that only a person with a very sick mind would fabricate such a tragedy as the one Beccah Beushausen created.

Yet she did. And the response to her made-up plight was amazing. Since Beccah’s “baby” was diagnosed as terminally ill in the womb, thousands of abortion opponents lauded her as a hero. Others who suffered the same tragedy reached out to Beccah, there were campaigns to help her, people sent gifts, advertisers were lurking, just waiting for the right moment to approach Beccah.

But because of a glitch in Beccah’s horribly schemed and sick plan, the world caught on. When she gave birth to the “baby” at home, whom she named “April Rose”, she published a photo holding the dead child, who apparently had died hours after the birth. An astute fan of Beccah’s blog noticed something was amiss in the photo, and not just that it was a dead baby. It was a fake baby.

Elizabeth Russell, a dollmaker from Buffalo, had been a follower of Beccah’s story and when the photo came out, she knew immediately that there was no baby.

I have that exact doll in my house,” said Russell. “As soon as I saw that picture, I knew it was a scam.

And what does Beccah have to say about it all? In an interview on ChicagoTribune.com, she said, “I know what I did was wrong. I’ve been getting hate mail. I’m sorry because people were so emotionally involved.” Beccah said she had always liked writing. “It was addictive to find out I had a voice that people wanted to hear.”

“Soon I was getting 100,000 hits a week, and it just got out of hand,” she said. “I didn’t know how to stop … One lie led to another.”

Yes, one lie led to another, and because of this snowball-of-an-internet lie, thousands of people were duped into believing this young woman was suffering and in need of help. She certainly is in need of help, but not for the reasons everyone was conned into believing.

There are no rules for blogging, and a person can write freely about anything she chooses, but when you manipulate the feelings of others for your own benefits, and without consideration to those reading, then that’s wrong.

We took to the cyber streets to hear what other mommy bloggers think about this hoax:

I’m torn about this one. On one hand, she obviously manipulated her readers both emotionally and financially. On the other hand, I feel sorry for her because she’s clearly in need of some sort of validation on a personal level. – Maureen Lipinski, author, A Bump in the Road, www.nowthatyoumentionit.com

Only a non-mom would have time to make up blog posts! I barely have time to write my real posts. – Amy, Snarky Mommy

Disgusted doesn’t even begin to cover it, and pissed off, and I’m looking at her and thinking she needs some serious mental health help. I would also like to see her prosecuted for fraud unless she returns every single item she received. There are some things you just don’t joke about. With blogging, you do help people and you really do care and you build real friendships … you want to help people. The blogging community does care, and to take advantage … is awful. There’s always going to be scam artists, but to take advantage of that situation is an evil act. – WeaselMomma

Unfortunately, this happens more often than we like to think. I have been “had” by a poser online, too. Someone who stole my heart and drew me in looking for support and prayer. I cried with this person, got angry that she was dying and prayed my ever-loving heart out only to find out … she was a BIG FAKE!

I have a hard time believing things people tell me online anymore. The sad part is, this poor girl is still hurting, is still in need of love, support and prayer and I am not sure she is getting it from anyone. I am still angry and know I should contact her but I am not ready. I still pray for her but I am still angry. It’s one of those things you are SURE you would never fall for … and then you do. – Michelle Kemper Brownlow, My Semblance of Sanity

Sadly, this fake mom blogger’s story will likely keep real mom bloggers from helping each other out. As they spend more time vetting other bloggers and less time lending a hand, social media will become decidedly anti-social. – Jen Singer, author, Stop Second-Guessing Yourself, creator of MommaSaid.net

After being caught as a fraud, Beccah posted this on her blog:

I lied and I am not trying to hide that, nor am I trying to minimize it. Worse still, I lied to a community of people whose only intention was to support me through this time and that is wrong, and for that I am sorrier than you could know.

Is Beccah’s apology enough? If you were a victim of her scam, how would you feel about it? How do you feel about the fact that she lied about having a baby, about giving birth, and about a baby who died? I think Beccah is in serious need of some quality medical help; there’s no excuse nor reasoning for something like this, and she should face some sort of consequence for what she did. Although I don’t know what she should do – perhaps volunteer her time helping mothers carrying terminally ill children. That might make her understand the severity of her acts.

And I definitely know that if she gets a book deal out of this, there is seriously something very wrong in our world!

Stephanie Elliot is an associate editor at Betty, and she also answers your parenting questions at Just Another Manic Mommy. Visit her at manicmommy.blogspot.com or stephanieelliot.com.

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0 thoughts on “Blogger Fakes Pregnancy and Infant Death

  1. Domesticate Me says:

    wowzers! I really just want to know what inspired her to concoct such a story? I mean, there are hundreds of thousands of stories (happy, possibly even realistic for her) that this woman could have wrote about.

    She needs to share her motive behind this whole scheme. Was it market research? What What??

  2. deborah says:

    Any time any one fabricates a story about being pregnant needs psychological help!

  3. iaretehsarah says:

    I used to be a fan on the journal site greatestjournal.com. And on there, a woman was raising a baby girl who had some sort of illness. She used photo’s of dead babies, and told sob stories every day how the baby was in the hospital again, when she was doing so well yesterday. She had a lot of people fooled, personal readers and journal communities alike. That is, until, she joined one community too many, and someone noticed how her story was _exactly the same_ As someone elses (she made multiple accounts, trying to get sympathy as much as she could).
    It’s the internet. This sucks, but people are retarded.

  4. hipstergal23 says:

    This is just terrible. I understand you can blog about whatever you like, but to manipulate people like that for personal gain. It’s just wrong.

  5. ErinW says:

    Do people not get the seriousness of situations like this when they decide to go out and pull such major hoaxes?! People have NO shame!

  6. MsFahrenheit says:

    Just shameful!

  7. Skyler24 says:

    this is just wrong. I think she does need some help…quick!

  8. LookitsCynthia says:

    think of the people who added her to their prayers, hailed her as a hero, and sent her gifts…an experience like this would totally harden people to helping others’ plights. so wrong!

  9. Kristina_R says:

    I ran across something similar on an online pregnancy support community, only the infant was severely premature and it was the woman’s niece, not her daughter. She’d appropriated her sister’s life, essentially. I think people started questioning why she herself was in so few photos, something like that.

    She said the lie just kept growing. But she never explains the FIRST lie, and that’s what I’d love to ask her, if I could. Why did you make it up in the first place? What did you think was going to happen? What was your goal?

    Is an apology enough? It’s something. But I don’t think she understands.

    When I think of the real grief that she appropriated, it’s just nauseating.

  10. JerseyGir102 says:

    what is wrong with people???

  11. bellavita says:

    this disgusts me…if you love writing than write a book!

  12. rosie818 says:

    I don’t know! And to cite wanting attention as the reason? Doesn’t she realize people aren’t really paying attention to her, just a fake online account. It’s just wrong

  13. hope_xo says:

    I don’t even know what to say, this is so wrong. All those people that supported her … are going to be 100% hesitant about helping others who are actually in need of support. This chick needs help. I mean, write a damn fiction book – not a blog.

  14. Delilah says:

    What do you guys think? Why would anyone go to such great lengths?!

  15. Talon says:

    I’m not surprised. Twelve years ago when my son died of undiagnosed Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome, I frequented AOL’s Loss of a Child boards, then later moderated chats for parents who had lost children.

    You would be surprised, truly surprised at some of the stories I heard…both entirely true and bizarre, and some very very false and either over the top, or believable enough to sort of fly under the moderator’s radar.

    I am unfortunately VERY good at sniffing out fakes, and quick to jump on people who say of recently finding out that their child is dead that they aren’t acting the “RIGHT” way.

    I’ll say this once. What this woman did was despicable.

    And I will say this: There is NO RIGHT WAY TO RESPOND TO THE NEWS THAT YOUR CHILD IS DEAD. You would be surprised, truly surprised at just what the numbness of shock, denial and grief can do to you.

    Off my soapbox now.

  16. bryony1 says:

    “Beccah said she had always liked writing.”
    She ought to have said she always liked lying. Pathological lying. Some people will do anything for attention. What a miserable slob. I have no pity for her whatever. She ripped off thousands of other people’s emotions in her sick, sick grab for attention. A fake baby? She wanted to get caught, as well.

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