Forget about the Resolutions

Why one woman's New Year's resolution includes doing nothing, and liking it.

In Her Words

Screw the ‘Lutions

Resolving to do nothing – and liking it

-Stephanie Elliot

woman pondering somethingI don’t know what I’m going to resolve to do. Everything I ever start out doing pretty much fails. There are always articles on making resolutions and sticking to them, and there are always articles on NOT making resolutions and living a happier life.

Is there any in-between?

Is there any benefit to just rolling the way I’ve been rolling? I kind of don’t think so? By the end of the year, I’m FRIED. I’m tired of what I’ve been doing, and I really feel the need for a change. I say I’m going to do this or that. I say I’m going to really start drinking the mandatory daily water and stop eating the sugar. But, usually, through the next three months, I hunker down and hide out. I hate the next three months and don’t want to see ANYBODY. What do I care what I look like, anyway?

What’s it matter?

Maybe THAT’S why I need some resolutions? To feel better about myself? Maybe resolving to get up at 6 a.m., shower daily and put on a fresh bra would make a WORLD OF DIFFERENCE in my life? Maybe sticking to a realistic work schedule slash home schedule would help my demeanor. I am a stay-at-home/work-from-home/try-to-do-it-all Mom, and it’s a whole helluva lot harder than I ever thought it would be to juggle EVERYTHING.

I’m great at focusing on one project. I suck at doing it all. The laundry suffers. So do the meals at home. So does the love life. I focus on the stuff that might not really be the most important.

Do I need to give up Diet Coke, start eating breakfast daily, make it a point to spiffy up the house every morning, drink my water, take my vitamin, make my bed, straighten up my home office, have a healthy snack and a smile waiting for my kids when they get off the bus every day.

Will this make ME happy? Will this make ME a better person?

Is that the point of resolutions? To make the person resolving a better person?

Is that the point?

Is there a point?

Right now, my resolution, my one and only resolution, is to get up every morning and be thankful. Yep, that’s it. Write it down, folks, the decision has been made.

Happy New Year.

Stephanie Elliot is Betty’s Lit Lounge and Parenting editor, and she also answers your parenting questions at Just Another Manic Mommy. Visit her at or

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