How to Hit on a Guy

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How to Hit on a Guy

Back by popular demand! You loved this article on how to take charge and make the first move!

-Amber Madison

Woman talking to a man in a bar

When it comes to hitting on women, most guys consider themselves skilled professionals. As a result, most of us are used to sitting back and waiting for whatever guy is brave enough to come over and try his luck. The only problem with this scenario is that you’re allowing someone else to decide who you do and don’t potentially connect with. Well, ladies, it’s time to take matters into your own hands for a change. See a tall dark stranger on the opposite side of the room you think you might like to talk to? What have you got to lose? The best thing about hitting on a stranger is that if you mess up, you never have to see him again. The worst thing about hitting on a stranger is that if you mess up, you never get to see him again. Here’s how to make the first move and get the reaction you’re looking for.

Approach alone. If you’re going to hit on a guy, you have to be willing to do it alone. This isn’t a “me and my friends are going to go to the bathroom together” type of occasion. If you bring friends along, a guy will get confused about who wants him: Is it you, or the girl standing next to you? Making the initial approach alone also shows confidence and independence, which any guy will tell you are the two hottest accessories any girl can show off.

Buy him a drink. If you’re at a bar, ask him what he’s drinking, and then order him one. Guys buy girls drink all the time, so they welcome the chance to be treated for once. Plus, it shows you’re not another “typical girl” who just expects the guy to pay all the time.

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Insult him. This is a trick that guys use when they try to make a pass at girls who are out of their league. Surprise, surprise: It works on guys too! Don’t say anything too mean, but feel free to tease him about something he’s wearing, drinking, buying or saying. Just make sure to give him a wink and/or a flirty smile as you’re doing it to let him know you’re only having fun.

Ask him a question. Yes, this one is basic, but it works. You can strike up a conversation with a guy anywhere just by asking him a question. If you’re in a gym, ask him how to use a piece of equipment. If you’re on a subway, ask him what he’s reading or how he likes his iPhone. If you’re in line at a supermarket ask him what exactly he plans to cook with the peanut butter and hot dogs in his basket.

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  1. in my younger days men would always approach me but if they didn’t i wouldn’t hesitate to go over and start a conversation, ask them to dance or whatever. never got a rejection but it’s hard to get rid of them the rest of the night if you change your mind.

  2. To find that right guy for you, just let him know what’s true in your heart in terms of everything from your concern for good-hearted people and good-hearted animals to your hatred of evil people. Tell him what you wish for the world. Then ask him to pour his heart out. If you find yourself even more attracted to him in knowing that he cares about good-hearted animals and good-hearted people, I believe you’ll most likely make a successful couple. Pouring your heart out in terms of your love for the good-hearted, will look appealing to him and he’ll be so attracted to you he’ll never let you down. Love for the good-hearted is a bonding glue that keeps people together. It is romantic. It is beautiful. Try it!!!!

  3. Too often women are not willing to at least mouth the word “hi”, even from a distance. This is a wonderful article, women should take notes, especially the ones who are saying they can’t find a good man. Make that move, as a man I appreciate it every once in a while. You don’t even have to come up with a stale pick-up line, just say hi.

  4. As a guy, don’t insult us. If I meet a woman and she insults or criticizes me, I’m gone. I for one will not put up with that what so ever. It’s all about respect, not control.

  5. this article is hilarious and so true! i typically have no problem being the initiator. i enjoy bantering with guys, giving them a hard time, flirting, etc. but, when it comes to the gym… i just can’t do it. so, i’ve had this thing for a guy at my gym and cannot bring myself to talk to him. he’s interested (guy is constantly checking me out and making eye contact w/ me). There were a couple of times where I could bet you that he was going to talk to me, but then chickened out. He seems shy. Anyway, bc there is all this etiquette when it comes to the gym, I don’t know how to approach this dude and get the job done myself. Esp, with headphones in the mix! I picture myself talking to someone, and all they see is my mouth moving and cannot hear a damn thing that I’m saying bc they have their music blasting.

  6. @thinkagain – lighten up a little. it’s not that we are not trying to be insulting. it’s called flirting. we are trying to break the ice with you, because these days guys are too chicken sh*t to approach females.

  7. The bit about it being for the “lady” will most likely get that drink turned down or thrown back at you. Its insulting the one thing guys do not want questioned – their manhood. There are so many other ways to chat up a guy on a positive note.

  8. I like what Sam30/50 says as well. If you’re looking for male companionship, respect and appreciate him. Let him notice that you’ve noticed him… and then let *him* make the first move.

  9. The flirting scenario & the smile n wink even work on an existing relationship. My hubby loves when I flirt with him like we’ve just met or wink & by him a drink from across the bar while I’m chatting with friends..

  10. If I were young and single, I would definitely try the “what are you drinking?” approach, at least once. I do believe that many guys would be so relieved and flattered that a woman did the approaching. But there ARE pitfalls. With my luck, I would probably hit on a guy who has a girlfriend or wife, and then he would politely decline my advance by slinking away from me and the bar! (uggggghhh) Wow, I guess men go through that torment all the time, huh? (lol)

  11. I am the kind of guy who hates forward women, yet I still think this is very true. Picking up on guys is REALLY easy if you put a tiny bit of effort into it and you are not hideously ugly. Most men never really got complimented or paid attention to. Insults only work to make him feel like you are out of his league, which is a useful tactic, but that ones risky, he may just think you are a bitch and tell his friends that he thinks so. If a girl shows tries to actually talks to us before getting flirtatious, it will usually work. Most guys I know are also sick of having to do all the work in a conversation. We don’t want to hear about gossip, or the girl you hate at work, but simple small talk like the news or something is still a great ice breaker. Most bars restaurants etc. have a t.v. on or at least something interesting set up for that very reason, a conversation piece come up to us and ask so what do you think about… (whatever is on tv) this way you get to know the guy and if you will like him at the same time as breaking the ice. You’d be surprised how many men are just STARVED for this kind of attention from women. We may debate with you even, but as long as you don’t get angry with us we just think it’s hot that you actually have an opinion. If you segue that into flirting 5-10 minutes in (or even longer if you manage to steer it into a great conversation) you will not only have a guy who wants to sleep with you, but one who is legitimately interested in you as a person. The only thing you have to worry about is guys who are taken (and will lie about it, because they think you seem more awesome), major differences in opinion where you were not compatible anyways, if you push flirtatiousness too quickly and they get creeped out. But you can generally feel that happening by his lack of interest.

  12. Seriously, this stuff does work girls. As a guy, it seems like we are the ones that are always supposed to approach and start something. For a girl to come and approach us, it shows she has confidence. That is something very valuable, and says many things about you as a person. So the next time you see a good looking fella, what do you got to lose?

  13. ALL MEN, with the exception of your gay male friends want to have sex with you…it is that simple. Unfortunately, there are very few men that really can respect any woman that acts friendly and most will intrepret your friendliness as an invitation to bed. Then there are alot of guys out there that play the “sensitive type” which is the most dangerous of them all and usually end up to be wife beaters. I am 42 and I have seen it all and believe men have not changed; they still all want your pusshole and will leave you like the dogs they are. I have no advice for you poor girls and my sympathies, perhaps after all the crap you go through you will discover that you have been a lesbian your whole life.

  14. shame dear, you seem to have gotten quite a harsh one. while that may be true in most cases, women seem to think that its the only thing we want. find a man with a good career & a lot of interesting hobbies. female friends are also a good sign as they kind of desensitize us and give us a mouth full if we are not doing right by the girlfriend.

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