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I Think My Hubby is Cheating
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I am married to a man I love so much, yet I have no confidence in him as there is always something suspicious that arises that makes me believe he is cheating on me. Sometimes I receive messages from his phone addressed to a woman, and when I ask if the messages are for me he says no. When I force the issue further and ask who they are for, he claims to have no knowledge of the messages and says that his phone was once used by someone else. I have found packets of condoms under our bed; he does deal with them at his work so sometimes he brings them back to store in the house. He once alleged that they were for his brother and his brother’s girlfriend.
Also, getting back to the messages, I have discovered videos of girls in bed on his phone.
I don’t know how to overcome this horrible feeling of thinking that he is cheating. I feel so disrespected at the idea of my husband sleeping with another woman. Why do men do these kinds of things?
Avery: It sounds like you have some very serious trust issues in your marriage and that there’s evidence to support your feeling that your husband is cheating.
Since you’ve confronted your husband about these issues and he seems to deny that anything is going on, you essentially have two choices: You can believe him and ignore the evidence, or you can dig deeper. Just keep in mind that if you dig deeper and you find more disturbing evidence, you should have a clear idea of what your plan will be once you are sure that he is cheating. You don’t mention whether you and your husband have children, and if so, how old they are. These are all factors that you need to consider before you make any big decisions.