The Newlywed Life: I’m Losing My Single Friends
Does getting married mean saying good-bye to your single friends?
I’ve always been a girl’s-girl. Not so much a girly girl or one of those group-of-girls-types, just someone who truly treasures my friendships with the X-chrom havers. I’ve always had a strong core of friends even though many of them weren’t friends with each other. And I thought that those relationships were the thick-and-thin types. And they were … until I got married.
G and I have been friends since we were 6. We learned how to ski, swim and sail together. We double dated at the prom and lived together at the beach one summer. Post-college, we traveled around Europe and eventually ended up living in the same neighborhood in New York City. G even has keys to my house. And even though as adults we weren’t as tight as before (it wasn’t uncommon for me to celebrate major holidays with her family), I still referred to G as my BFF. Not anymore.
When Husband and I got engaged, uncontrollable, unfathomable joy entered my life. Honestly, I never understood the word ecstatic until that day. And just like every newly affianced in America I wanted to share the news with my dearest. G picked up the phone with a voice of disenchantment and boredom. “G, I’m getting married!” “Shock-er,” she said. “Shock-er” was her response to my biggest news in life since getting into my first choice school early decision. Now, grant it, after nearly a decade of dating, my news wasn’t that big of a surprise. But still, I expected more from her.
I never got it.