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Why Is He Even Bothering?
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I have been separated from my husband of four years for three months now. We have a 2-year-old son. The hubby and I got married after only six months of knowing one other. About a year after I had our baby, he introduced me to this girl he had met at the gym. We instantly clicked; she was like the sister I never had. Her husband was rarely around, so she and her kids were over a lot. She and my husband flirted during this time and I never thought anything of it. Well three months later I found out that they had been talking for hours at a time over a span of a couple of months; they would also meet at the gym sometimes in the wee hours of the morning.
They claimed that is was nothing sexual.
Over the course of the next 9 months they kept in contact. He repeatedly lied to me, saying that they had cut off communication. He has been trying to get back together with me since the day I moved out, and after only two weeks of me leaving I noticed many long phone conversations on the phone bill. He says that it isn’t her, that it’s someone else entirely. Regardless, if he wanted to get back together wouldn’t he be concentrating on me? Should I be done with this?
Avery: If your (ex) husband is still involved in a romantic relationship with another woman – whether it’s with this “friend” who you know or not, then he’s really not ready to get back together. Is he really trying to get back together? How so? By hurting you with his continuing relationship with another woman?! When your (ex) husband is really ready to try to make things work with you, you’ll know it. Right now he’s not doing or showing that at all.