My Favorite Saying
A Mom and a Gentleman
Behind every good guy is his mom
By: Mary Beth Sammons
“It kills you to see them grow up. But I guess it would kill you quicker if they didn’t.” -Barbara Kingsolver, Animal Dreams
We all hold out such hope for our children. We try to teach them to be good, to care, to pursue their dreams and to seize all the opportunities life has in front of them. During the teen years, this becomes especially tricky. We hold our breath and hope that we never see their names in the police blotter or catch a conversation from another group of parents dissing our kid’s actions on the sidelines of the soccer fields or, God forbid, view what we know is really happening on Facebook.
So yesterday, when my sister called, saying she wanted to tell me something about my college-age son and his newest girlfriend, with the caveat “I probably shouldn’t be telling his mom this story,” I held my breath.
It seems he confided to her about a new girl he started dating. Apparently, the young woman told him that she was impressed at how he treated her on their first few dates. Specifically, she appreciated that he showed respect toward her and “didn’t try anything, like all the other guys do.” (I didn’t do a deep dive for details on this one.)
But here’s where I was able to stop hyperventilating and got that peaceful “om” feeling. My sister told me that my son told her (this is how this mom of teens often gets the real scoop) that he responded to the young woman: “Well, my mom taught me how to be a gentleman.”
Some days, on the mom-teen front we discover that somewhere underneath that defiance and strong will to forge their own path, our teen kids are showing signs that they are carrying some of our teachings on their journey.
It is those rare moments we need to savor.