Woman to Women
Accentuate the Negative
Find someone to love your butt
By: Reed Walton
“Daaaaaaaaaaaammmn! She got a big butt!”
OK, that’s hard for anyone to hear, right? Especially at 19 impressionable years old, and in the middle of the fashion district in lower Manhattan. “Cringe” is an understatement.
Unfortunately, I carried that understatement with me for a good number of years. After all, this was 1998, before Jennifer Lopez’s… ahem… assets became as famous as her face, and before the amply endowed Kim Kardashian literally burst onto the scene.
All of the icons of female beauty I grew up looking at had slim hips, flat buns, and a LOT out in front. I had never honestly met a “butt man” until my current guy… 10 years after the “big butt” comment back on the streets of New York. He doesn’t just like it–he worships it. I was taken aback–can there seriously be someone whose favorite part of me was the one center of my insecurity for so long?
Our self-perceived flaws can be some of our strongest assests in the eyes of others. Sure, your scintillating personality, brains and sparkling wit don’t hurt; but it’s always nice to find somebody who has a special affinity for the features that always caused you the most grief.
So why not play up what you previously thought were flaws? Try it on for a night. If you’re very, very tall, kick off those frowsy flats for a night and don a pair of stiletto heels. You may just find the Billy Joel to your Christie Brinkley. If you have wide hips, shake them in a curve-hugging dress; the attention you get may be surprising. Anxious to cover up thunder thighs or knobby knees? Flaunt them in a miniskirt for a night instead. Hey… anything could happen.
Tell us: What would you consider flaunting that you may not be 100% comfortable with?