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Commitment-phobe or...?

Dear ASK REAL GUYS: Hi, guys! I dated a guy for three months. Everything was great, no problems, fantastic. I recently started my own business, and I told him I needed to take time off (one weekend) to focus on work. He wasn't pleased but dealt with it. When I called him one week later, he said he wasn't ready for a relationship and he needed space. What the hell? He said he hadn't met anyone. I believed him. He said he was commitment-phobic. OK, and...? He just dropped off the face of the earth. This is so confusing to me. I understand the phobia, as I have it, too, but I still wouldn't do that to anyone. He was so passionate about us, and then nothing. What gives?

Steven: He's probably "just not into you" anymore. Having said that, there is the possibility that when you said you needed a weekend off, he thought, "What gives?" and interpreted that as a blow-off. Then, in turn, to protect his ego, he wanted to blow you off rather than take the risk of getting rejected. Either way, he doesn't sound like the right man for you at this time. Send him an e-mail occasionally to say hello and keep in touch and maybe things will turn around. If they do, make sure to get clear on why he behaved the way he did.