Woman to Women

The Upside of Anger

It's okay for you to stop seething and saying "I'm sorry"

-Jennifer Lubell

Anger is a problem for me.

Like many women, I have a hard time expressing it in a constructive manner. There are some people who rave and rant to get their poisons out of their system, and others who scream and throw things into walls. And then there are those easygoing souls who let everything roll off their back, like water on a duck.

I seethe.

Instead of saying what's really bothering me, I hold everything in. I'm doing it as we speak. There's the arrogant male coworker who stabbed me in the back and took a plum assignment away from me, and against whom I can't retaliate because technically he's my boss. I'm angry at my mother, who a few months ago lambasted me in front of my husband and son and has yet to apologize for her actions. And I still haven't forgiven my former classmate Renee, who called me a horrible name in homeroom nearly 28 years ago. read more about the upside of anger...