10 Things I Hate about Parenting

Julie Ryan Evans discusses 10 things she hates about parenting.

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10 Things I Hate about Parenting

From car seats to Sponge Bob, these are some things I could do without

-Julie Ryan Evans

Frustrated motherI love my children more than anything on earth, but that doesn’t mean I love everything about parenting. In fact, there are some things about it that I flat out hate. A strong word, yes, and one I don’t allow my children to use. But I’m the mommy, so here goes:

1. I hate disciplining my child in front of others. In the privacy of my own home I am strong and confident in my decisions, but when other eyes are watching, I start second guessing my every move. I just gave him two warnings, I’m sure they think I’m too lenient. Am I raising my voice too much? Do they think he’s a spoiled bratt? Are they going to call child welfare? Face it, everyone loves to judge a mom, and it’s hard not to let it get to you.

2. I hate potty training. There are plenty of parenting challenges that I embrace whole heartedly. I relish teaching my children new things, seeing how they learn, how they progress. And I thought potty training would be another that we’d conquer together, victorious in the end. Instead it was one of the worst experiences of my life. I nearly had a nervous breakdown potty training my son, and my daughter … well, I’m thinking of outsourcing that lesson when the time comes.

3. I hate Eczema. Both my children battle this frustrating and sometimes unsightly skin condition. The treatments that work contain steroids, the side effects of which scare me; and the rest of it, well, doesn’t work so good. I’m continually slathering lotion on someone, and the eczema is still constantly there.

4. I hate car seats. Don’t worry, I use them and always will. But strapping children in and out of these things in the freezing cold or sweltering heat over and over and over again, especially when they’re fighting you, is just plain exhausting. And though my son is now in a booster seat and pretty self-sufficient at getting himself in and out of it, about every 10th time the seatbelt locks … which he usually tells me right as we’re pulling out of our driveway or a parking lot – usually when we’re running late. So the car goes back in park, and out I get to wrestle with the seatbelt once again. Don’t even get my started on traveling with these contraptions.

5. I hate junk toys from birthday party goody bags and all the other little crap toys my son collects along the way. There is no place for this plastic paraphernalia that litters our life and is probably made with toxic chemicals polluting our home, car and yard as well – little bouncy balls, miniature games that break within minutes of playing, tiny kazoos, microscopic playing cards. But it’s my son’s treasure that he loves for about 10 minutes and wouldn’t dream of parting with. Ever.

6. I hate baby clothes with words like “cutie” “sweetheart” and “little princess” ALL OVER THEM. Don’t need it, don’t want it, just want plain little solid colors or prints without a store logo, word or cartoon character anywhere in sight. Try finding them – it’s a serious challenge to do so outside of pricey boutiques. Even the Gap, the mecca of staples, has to emblazon each piece with GAP somewhere on it.

7. I hate Sponge Bob Square Pants. It’s just creepy, and while I couldn’t really articulate the reasons I won’t let me 6-year-old son watch it, I won’t. It’s just weird and without any value at all in my opinion. While violent, at least Spider Man is virtuous.

8. I hate that kids are mean. Watching my son’s heart break because some kid says something to him, hurts me worse than I knew I could be hurt. I know we’ll be on both sides of this aisle, and that he has been and will be the mean kid sometimes – I hate both scenarios.

9. I hate the fear. I hate that everything scares me from the food coloring in the frosting on birthday cake to the threat of childhood cancer to possibility of them being abducted. I hate how much time and energy it takes to deal with the fear.

10. Most of all I hate that there isn’t enough time – not enough hours in the day, weeks in the year, years in my life – to spend with these amazing little beings who I have the privilege of parenting. I love to watch them grow, but I hate how quickly the time passes and how these incredible days of their youth are going to be gone before I know it. Because for all the frustrations, the thing I hate the most is that there will never be enough time to love them.

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  1. I hate car seats too! WHy are they so incredibly aggravating and hard to use? I am grateful they exist — but honestly when my daughter was smaller I would sometimes rather just not leave the house than deal with the dreaded car seat. And Sponge Bob — it’s SO weird and creepy — I agree.

  2. Excellent article, Julie! I agree with all of these points – except maybe the eczema (but that is only because we, luckily, don’t have to deal with it). We have the exact same dilemma with the seat belts locking – but I am never told about it until I am in my seat belt coming out of the driveway! SpongeBob is just plain dumb, and I don’t care what people say – I don’t need a reason to not let my kids watch it. And your last 3 points are big ones with me – I am terrified daily of something horrible happening to my children, or of someone being mean to them, or of them being mean to someone else. And I get a little sad every time they learn something new, or grow even a tiny bit, because that means the day they leave me is just that much closer.

  3. I hate when kids ask a billion questions that are completely irrelevant during story time.
    I hate when random children want to hug you.
    I hate when kids learn the word “no”
    And, I especially hate when kids become teens and they have this new attitude problem and obsession with freedom and control.

  4. That is rather harsh, don’t you think? Kids ask questions, because they are interested. If a random child hugs you, be grateful – maybe they think you need a hug, or maybe they just LIKE you! Kids learn the word “No” because they get told it over and over and over. And why shouldn’t a teen want to control their life? They are on the edge of adulthood, and have seen plenty of adults make decisions, good and bad – isn’t that everyone’s right? What makes you think that teenagers don’t deserve the right to control their own life (with some proper boundaries)?

  5. LOL, because my husband and I always try to leave birthday parties just before the goody bags are handed out because we too HATE all the CHUNK toys from China that go in them. Since when was it mandatory to give out goody bags at kid’s birthday parties???

  6. What I hate is when your kid becomes friends with a neighborhood kid who is horrible. Teaches your kid to be more aggressive/competitive, to not listen to you and you cannot ever get rid of them!

  7. love the blog, I also hate the kids are mean thing, my 4 year old son will try and be so nice to a strange kid at a softball game and the kid will be mean or be a little smart ass and my son wont understand that there are mean people in this world…hurts me too seeing the innocence he has toward mean or rude behavior…

  8. not sure I follow the spongebob feeling though, of course he is dumb, thats the point…you think daffy duck was a genius? Its just a cartoon that kids love, thinking too much into the meaning and definition of spongebobs activities is over kill I think

  9. As a mother of a child with eczema, I sympathize with you. The steroid creams also
    had me worried. I switched to a mouisturizing beeswax salve (safe and natural) and it worked wonders!

  10. As a mother of a teenager who is 18 mos. away from the jumping off point of adulthood, I hate that my worries have gone from what you have mentioned to “Is she making the right choices for her life” and “Will she really stand up for herself should a boy/man try to hurt her physically?” Time does fly….

  11. I don’t have kids… but the one thing I _always_ think about, is… when I do, and they’re of age, I hope that they learn to do the right things. Like, if they decide they want to try drugs or drinking, I hope they won’t get addicted, and I lose them.

  12. The leading cause of eczema in children is a food allergy. Look into it. Once we cut their allergens out of their diets, the eczema was gone in a week. Really.

  13. I agree with everything Domesticate Me said. It freaks me out when a kid I don’t know comes up to me and hugs me or asks questions. And all teenagers have hormonal attitude problems. Even we did when we were of that age.

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