Gwyneth Paltrow Opens Up About the Most Painful Time in Her Life (It’s a Doozy)
Gwyneth Paltrow recently opened up about a miscarriage she suffered while trying to have a third child.
I make fun of Gwyneth Paltrow all the time. I admit it. She’s a fairly easy target due to GOOP and how out of touch she seems to be about how those of us who don’t belong to the one percent live; though I don’t think she’s as dangerous as some other celebrities I could name (*coughthecastofJerseyShorecough*), I do still think that she’s sometimes indicative of what’s damaging about celebrity culture.
However, I think I’m go a little gentler on her from here on out. Gwyneth, who has two children, Apple, 8, and Moses, 6, with husband Chris Martin, opened up in a recent issue of the Daily Mail’s You magazine about whether she would consider having another baby—and while she’s not ruling it out entirely, she did reveal something that she’s kept pretty tightly under wraps up until now.
“My children ask me to have a baby all the time and you never know—I could squeeze one more in. I am missing my third. I am thinking about it,” the actress said. “But,” she continued, “I had a really bad experience when I was pregnant with my third and it didn’t work out and I nearly died. So I am like, ‘Are we good here or should we go back and try again?’”
She changed the subject right after that, so that’s all the information we have. We don’t know exactly when it happened, although it must have been sometime in the last seven years (Moses was born in 2006); we don’t know anything about what exactly went wrong; and we don’t know at what point during the pregnancy it happened, although we can probably guess that it was sometime during the first trimester. Regardless, though, a miscarriage is an incredibly difficult thing to have gone through, and Gwyneth’s was compounded by the fact that she almost died in the process. Not only that, but she didn’t try to capitalize off it in any way—not right after it happened, and not (I don’t think, at least) right now. As awful as it sounds, I’ve come to expect that a lot of celebrities will milk personal tragedies for all they’re worth in order to keep themselves in the public eye.
Notably, Gwyneth also suffered post-partum depression after the birth of Moses, which isn’t something to take lightly. She said in 2011 that after Moses came into the world, “I felt like a zombie. I couldn’t access my heart. I couldn’t access my emotions. I couldn’t connect. It was terrible, it was the exact opposite of what had happened when Apple was born. With her, I was on cloud nine. I couldn’t believe it wasn’t the same. I just thought it meant I was a terrible mother and a terrible person.”
I may still have my quibbles with Gwyneth in general and GOOP in particular, but on top of having some real feelings for her about what she and her family have gone through, I’ve got a lot of respect for how she’s dealt with it.
Castle and all.
Lucia Peters is BettyConfidential’s senior editor.