5 Things Single Women Hate To Hear

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5 Things Single Women Hate To Hear

No matter who it’s from, this well-meaning advice falls on deaf single ears



Every time she hung out with her single female friends, the same gripes surfaced. Enough already with the how-to-snag-a-guy advice streaming from anyone and everyone as soon as status single was announced, they said.

Suddenly, Karin Anderson, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at Concordia University Chicago, found herself keeping track of what these single women were saying, replacing the strict academic research techniques she was used to with more informal polling.

What she found was a deluge of well-meaning advice being issued to singles that, while offered with the best of intentions, not only wasn’t working but was making singles’ skin crawl.

“The message to singles tends to be that they’re doing something wrong, ‘You’re too this’ or ‘You’re not enough that.’ Being single is treated as this problem that needs to be solved,” says Anderson. “That’s really bogus. We should be telling single women, ‘You’re fine. There’s nothing wrong. Enjoy your life.'”

These five snippets of well-meaning advice to singles top Anderson’s list of worst offenses. Here’s why.

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  1. I hear “you’re too picky” all the time. But, honestly, why should I be bashed for being selective? I like what I like, and I want what I want. I think that’s commendable

  2. Whaaaat?!? Those 5 points are appalling! My gfs and I never said/say those kinds of things to each other… that’s definitely not being supportive and in fact, does the opposite of EMPOWER which is what being single is all about. Don’t get me wrong, being independent and strong IN a relationship is just as important but being single is all about knowing just how strong you are SOLO :)

  3. I hear “your too picky ” daily. But I dont care, because I and everyone has the right to choose. Because I am picky about everything. And “tone it down a notch”, I am a very aggressive woman, who loves to speak her mind. I feel that you can not knock a person down for being 100 with you and themselves. And if I am too aggressive then you are not the right man or friend for me. I am this way to weed out the weaklings. I need a real man and real friends with backbones. Plus the ones who say tone it down keep coming around, so they must really like it inside. Or wish that can could express themselves fully, as I do. My circle of friends have the right to say, speak and act as they choose. Real friends say what they feel, and thats how you know who they really are. If I dont look right in something or somethings not right, a friend says “hold it” we not having this. Its Aug 2009, be real with others and yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  4. married people think they are better than single people. If a person isn’t going around saying ‘im so lonely i wanna die’ then they don’t need your advice or want it. I hate when people ask why are you still single? personally I don’t need to explain my life to anyone. Married people are too nosey and opinionated talk about lonely…. maybe I just enjoy eating in a different restuarant every night while you complain about your hubby and all his antics like if anyone cares.

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