5 Tips for a Long-Lasting Relationship
How to keep the love alive, and have fun while doing it.
Let me start off by saying I have had my fair share of crappy relationships. My first love turned out to be a total dud – and that’s being generous – and my second was certainly less than stellar. Having said that, I don’t know what I did to deserve the fabulous love affair I have been wrapped up in for the past four years. We listen to one another, we’re supportive of each other’s needs, and above all we have a total blast!
So without further ado, here are my five foolproof ways for keeping that fire a-burnin’…
1. Choose Your Battles
It sounds cliché, but this is truly one of the most important ingredients to a long-lasting relationship. It definitely isn’t easy, especially when he’s done something that is so juvenile (such as leaving his dirty socks on top the coffee table … gross), but I know from experience that blowing up time and again over little, insignificant irritants – in the grand scheme of things – is not the way to go. If he stays out all night with his boys at questionable bars without giving you a call, then by all means let him have it. Otherwise try your damndest to turn the other cheek (because really, who wants to waste precious Gossip Girl time arguing about laundry?).
2. Take Turns
You don’t want to become that nagging girlfriend who drags her guy to every cheesy chick flick and Pottery Barn in the Western Hemisphere. Therefore, mix it up: if he wants to test out that rock-climbing wall at REI one weekend, then strap on your climbing shoes and hop to it. The following weekend, take your turn and choose the activity, movie, restaurant, etc. This will keep things fresh and fun!
3. Remember When?
Reminisce, reminisce, reminisce. The boy and I are constantly saying things like “Remember our final day in Mexico when we accidentally spent the last of our pesos on lobster at 10:00 a.m., and almost had to walk all the way back to our hut, in the rain?” or “OMG remember how nervous I was on our first official date? I’m so glad I didn’t throw up all over you.” Reflecting on the past is essential because it reminds you of all the wonderful times you’ve had together.