5 Tips for Taking Your Hot Summer Sex Life Into Fall
Just because summer’s ending doesn’t mean romance has to cool down too.
It may still be hot outside, but with Labor Day approaching, fall is rearing its ugly head. That means the waning of BBQs, sundresses, and worst of all, possibly your summer romance. Want to keep the heat in your love life year round? Whether it’s with a new guy, or your extended summer fling, here’s how:
1. Stay Spontaneous.
Part of the excitement of summer is the last minute getaways. Renting a car and driving to the beach, taking a day off to go to a lake, deciding last minute to spend the day at an amusement park. That spontaneity keeps a relationship feeling fresh. And there’s no reason you have to lose that come colder months. Sure, the activities themselves might be different, but your sense of adventure doesn’t have to be. Keep looking for last-minute get aways, and keep thinking about possible road trips.
2. Refuse to Hibernate.
In crappy weather you are going to be spending more time indoors. That’s fine. What’s not fine is to hibernate in your apartment and take your relationship into a rut where all you do with your man is eat take out and watch movies on demand. There are plenty of fun indoor activities you can do in the winter: visit a museum, scale a rock climbing wall, go roller skating, see live music somewhere … do anything that gets you off your couch and out of the same old routine.
3. Leave Work at Work.
Blame it on summer Fridays, margarita consumption, or beach weekends—but whatever the culprit, summer time is the time to leave work at work, and use your down time to relax. That means more attention that you’re giving to your man, and a greater sense of fun that you bring to the relationship. Yes, fall is the time to buckle down at work, but when you’re not at work, focus on other things. When you and your man are together, make a pact to burry your blackberries in your sock drawer, and actually BE together.
4. Stay Responsible.
There’s just nothing hot about the stress that comes from a pregnancy or STD scare. Just like we know you were responsible with your birth control all summer, keep up that responsibility in the fall. And if you weren’t so responsible in the warmer months, now is the time to vow to be better: Use your Trojans. Get on birth control pills if you’re not already. And if all else fails, know you can get Plan B the morning after (well, up to three mornings after actually). When you feel good and confident about your health, you feel good and confident about your sex life.
5. Take Advantage of Winter Laziness.
Want to spend all day in bed … together? Do it! A slower pace of life means more time you and your man can spend under covers without a sense of urgency to start the day. More time in bed, means more time to try out new positions, focus on pleasing each other, and have loooong encounters rather than just quickies.
Now, who said summer is the hottest month of the year?
Amber Madison is the author of Hooking Up: A Girl’s All-Out Guide to Sex and Sexuality, and is the sex columnist for Seventeen Magazine.