4. You want friends to take a backseat.
The worst thing that can happen is that you fall in a trap of the relationship being your only form of entertainment on a Saturday night. Just because your happy in your relationship doesn’t mean you should drop your friends! Your boyfriend is a peice of your life, not the whole puzzle. He will have his “guys” to hang with, you should always have your “girls.” If you feel like your man’s friends are taking up all his free time, plan a fun date for the next weekend! It could even become a weekly Friday or Saturday date night. This frees up the other weekend night for whatever comes up, whether it be you all hang out in a group of friends, go your seperate ways, or hang in and watch a movie.
5. You’re not being yourself.
Don’t try to conform to what you think your man wants in a girl or try to be as similar to him as possible. This ends up having a reverse effect- not many people want to date themselves. Its okay to have different thoughts, opinions, views, interests, styles, etc.- that’s what makes life exciting. Learn from eachother and use your differences as a way to expand your worlds. You guys are in a relationship for a reason, he liked you for who you were when he first got to know you- don’t forget that!
6. You try to change him.
Remember how awesome he thinks you are just the way you are? Well, remember the same goes for him. Just because you are at a point in your relationship where you are comfortable and open with eachother, doesn’t mean you should tell him everything you wish he did differently. Of course, if something is bothering you, talk about it, but don’t nitpick all his words and actions. Think about how it would make you feel if he did that to you- angry, annoyed, insecure? Let him be him, that’s why you love him!
Adam LoDolce is a professional college and teen speaker, dating coach, and an expert on how to meet new people. To learn more about his profession, visit www.UltimateSocialFreedom.com, and for dating tips go to www.SociallyFreeTV.com.