5. Assploration. Yes, many guys find it pleasurable to have their bums fondled. Many guys will also flip out if you go anywhere near their back door. Unless he’s told you he likes it, stay away from that area. If you want to fondle something, reach for his balls instead. They are a much safer bet.
6. The Lean Back. Erections bend forward. This means: don’t ride him the same way you would ride a bull. Lean forward or straight up, don’t lean all the way back. Quite simply, guys’ equipment doesn’t bend that way.
7. The Red Eye. Most guys will agree that reverse cowgirl is a hot position. That being said, it’s the safest to stay upright in this position. If you lean forward and grab his ankles not only are you risking bending him the wrong way, you’re giving him an unsolicited view of your bum-hole. Booties are hot, the actual hole…. the verdict is still out for many guys.
8. The Water Slide. From time to time, lubrication is necessary. There are many things that make good lubricants: KY Jelly, lotion, saliva, even conditioner if you’re giving a hand job in the shower. One thing that doesn’t make a good lubricant: water. Water actually just adds to the chafing. If you are giving a hand job and need some extra lubricant, reach for the lotion, not the faucet.
BettyConfidential’s Sexpert Amber Madison is a sex educator and author of Hooking Up: A Girl’s All-Out Guide to Sex and Sexuality, and Talking Sex With Your Kids, which was released in March.