A Girl’s Guide to Masturbation
Being able to satisfy and be satisfied starts with becoming comfortable with your own body. Don’t be afraid to dive in and give yourself a little love.
“What’s wrong with masturbation? It’s sex with someone I love.” So said Woody Allen in the classic film Annie Hall. And still, more than thirty years later, we could not agree more. It’s telling that Annie herself didn’t speak those words – while it’s an accepted practice for men to get down and dirty with themselves, women are resistant to self-pleasuring. We’re even taught to think that it’s naughty. But how will you ever help a man figure out what makes you tick if you don’t find out for yourself? It’s the 21st century, ladies! The time has come for those antiquated worries to go the way of the videocassette.
We have entered a new era in which loving yourself (or in this case, giving yourself some love) is where true happiness begins. In fact, scientific findings have proven that masturbation has most likely been practiced since the dawn of mankind. Don’t you think it’s time you got on board?
After recently telling you what gadgets are essential to spicing up your sex life it seemed all too necessary to take a step back and explore the rudimentary components of self-satisfaction. “Masturbation leads to a greater sense of relaxation and overall well-being as well as self-love. This can enhance one’s day-to-day life both physically as well as psychologically,” says Dr. Rina Grafstein, P.H.D. and Clinical Psychologist in New York. Here are some methods that will make you more confident in your sex life by night, and put a twinkle in your eye by day.
1. Set the mood with the MEMO Scented Candle ($39.95). Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you should skimp on the romance. Seducing yourself is sexier when set to a backdrop of low lights and a flickering flame. This is partially because your pupils dilate, which often goes hand-in-hand with strong sexual arousal. Also, the bouncing shadows provide atmosphere. Warning: be careful of flailing arms and legs that could knock over candles. On the flipside, if you can turn yourself on enough to lose control of your limbs and start knocking things over, you definitely deserve bonus points.
If fire freaks you out scented oils are a good alternative. Nantucket Natural Oils ($2.50 per ounce) are a flame-free way to make your room smell and feel like a sexy oasis. “A pleasant scent helps promote the ‘relaxation response,’ which makes masturbation more effortless,” says Dr. Grafstein. Feeling sexy is all about feeling comfortable, so go for fabulous scented oils that put your mind at ease and your body in the mood.