ASK REAL GUYS
What Am I to Him?
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I’ve been hanging out with an awesome boy. We have been friends since high school and he just got out of a pretty bad relationship, so I never talk to him about us being together, but we are with each other constantly. He takes me to dinner, we go to the movies, bowl, or we hang out and play video games or board games with his family. Now he keeps talking about looking for an apartment with me. We’ve messed around a couple of times but nothing physical beyond that, which drives me crazy. I’m a very sexual person, and since we never established the two of us as being together, I’ve been having sex with other boys.
I really am starting to love this guy and if he asked me to be with him I would never be unfaithful. I just don’t know what he wants from me right now. What do you think I should do?
Matt: He apparently likes being around you. At some point however, if he hasn’t been clear, then you have to breach the topic of “what are we.” He may just consider you a good friend, but if you’d like something more, than you need to start asking questions in order to move forward.