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He Doesn’t Fully Trust Me
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I broke up with my boyfriend one time and it was a very stupid move. He loves me with all of his heart and I know it, and it was extremely hard on him when we broke up. We decided to get back together four months later, and everything is good except he is scared every day that I will leave him again. I tell him that I have no intention of breaking things off again, but he doesn’t seem to completely believe me. I have to go away for college this fall, and it is about 30 minutes away from where I currently live. He is scared to death that I will meet a new guy and forget about him.
My question is: What can I do to make him relax about the idea of living 30 minutes away from him? I know he cares, but he cares a little too much.
Matt: It’s understandable why he’s “once bitten, twice shy.” What were the circumstances of that breakup? If you both were fighting a lot and you broke up, that’s understandable – and if your interactions have gotten smoother, than he shouldn’t worry. However, if he was just being himself and you decided he wasn’t right for you, then he may have a complex for a while. If you’ve made him feel as comfortable as you can, than that’s all you can do. At the end of the day, being secure has to come from within.