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“Issues” to Work On?
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I was in a really great relationship while it lasted. Everything seemed like a dream with how good it was going between us. He told me he was very shy and that he didn’t really like to express his feelings in the beginning, but he also told me that he had never been in love until then. I became ill and we didn’t see each other for a few days, and when we finally did he acted very strange.
The following day he didn’t answer the phone at all, then a while later he sent me a message asking if I would meet up with him. I got there and he said that we needed to breakup. I honestly thought he was joking because it came out of nowhere. He said he had some personal issues to deal with and that he didn’t think he was ready for a serious relationship. Apparently he thought of me as more of a friend, yet just two days beforehand he was saying how much he loved me. I didn’t at all buy his needing to “work on personal issues” claim.
We agreed to remain friends but now he won’t even speak to me, as if I did something wrong. I don’t understand; what do you think happened?
Avery: The man who you were involved with is an emotional disaster who doesn’t know how he feels or lacks the emotional maturity to be involved with someone like you. To be in love one day and dumping you two days later, shows that he’s a train wreck. Move on. Don’t worry about whether you did something to him or not. It’s irrelevant.