How To Get Over Mr. Wrong and Find Mr. Right

Lisa Steadman, author of "If He's Not the One, Who Is?” talks about healing heartbreak and finding your perfect match.
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A happy womanYou talk about an “invisible electric fence” we should put around an ex – such a spot-on visual. Are we really not allowed to stay in touch with him? What if he’s a really, really nice guy?
A lot of our exes are really nice guys. But staying friends with an ex immediately following a breakup puts our future on the hold. On some level, our heart stays connected to our ex, which means there’s no room for somebody new to come into the picture. It also means we’re not giving ourselves the opportunity to heal.

I met my husband almost a year to the date of cutting Mr. Ex off cold turkey. No calls, no e-mails, nothing. And in the meantime, I met and dated some really fun, fabulous men.

My relationship ended just a few weeks ago. What three things should I do right now?
• Unfriend your ex on Facebook and Twitter. Immediately. No cyberstalking allowed.
• Gather your Woohoo Crew, i.e. your friends who are going to be there for you. Plan fun single-gal adventures. Celebrate their love and support.
• Create a plan for your future, without him. What great adventures await now that you’re free to follow that inner voice? Do you want to travel, go back to school, change jobs, buy property, take up salsa dancing? You decide. And act/plan accordingly.

You say that if we think a new guy might be Mr. Right, we have to brave enough to ask him, “Where is this going?” Awkward! Is that realistic in this age of easy, breezy, low-key dating?
These conversations are definitely awkward. But what’s even more awkward is deciding to fall for some guy you’re seeing before really understanding if he’s falling for you. As women, we can’t be afraid to rock the boat. We have to be willing to risk big to win big.


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0 thoughts on “How To Get Over Mr. Wrong and Find Mr. Right

  1. Fern says:

    Wow, that’s some really good advice

  2. mcj3 says:

    that was right on!!

  3. relationshipexpert says:

    The good news is that you don’t need any dating service to find Mr. Right. These basic tips below will help you to find the right guy for you! Here are they:

    * First, you need to decide what kind of guy that you want like what kind of personality he must have, what characteristics he must possess, what value in life that he must have, and how he looks in order to be sexually attractive. It sounds a bit clinical when talking about future husband material, but it’s the truth. If you don’t know what your goal is in anything you do, you seriously damage your chances of getting it.
    * Second, when looking for love, you need to look for the person on the inside, not the person on the outside. In this world today we focus too much on physical appearance. For example, Bill from accounting with the old glasses might be your prince charming if you can get past the shallow tendency to look only at physical appearance. We girls like to have it all, and well, guys aren’t that good at giving it to us, but they mean well, and they try so hard.
    * Lastly, Be Honest and open! Honesty is the number one most important thing in any relationship. And true, if you’re breaking up with a few of the men they might be hurt, but they would rather hurt for a day or two, then stay in a relationship that is based upon false emotions.

  4. ladymj says:

    wow! amazing this advice makes me feel good..

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