Murder of Jennifer Hudson’s Family Raises Many Questions
Star’s former brother-in-law is prime suspect
-Julie Ryan Evans
Whenever a brutal murder happens, I always wait for the announcement that it was someone the victim knew – a family member or estranged lover. So many times it is, and I breathe a sigh of relief. Not that it makes any less horrific or unjust or tragic, but I feel safe because it’s something that could never happen to me … or so I think.
But really, does anyone ever think it could happen to them? Can you fall in love and have a child with someone who you think IS capable of something like that? Or does love blind you to that sort of thing until it’s too late? It’s easy for friends and family to look back with hindsight and say they saw the potential, that they aren’t surprised, but did they REALLY think so at the time?
And does the perpetrator, the abuser, the murder, have any idea they’re capable of such an act of violence until they feel the intensity of love and loss and heartbreak? Did they just snap and become someone they never thought they could be?
These are the questions that come to mind as the murders of Jennifer Hudson’s family unravel. The person of interest is William Balfour, ex-husband of her sister, Julia, and the seemingly devoted stepfather of 7-year-old Julian, who was found shot to death.
Sure he wasn’t the model citizen; he had a long criminal rap sheet and was on parole at the time of the murders. And we can look at our spouses and say they aren’t like that – they’ve never been arrested; they hold good jobs. But according to the American Bar Association, approximately 1.3 million women (and 835,000 men) are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in the United States, many of whom appear as model citizens. On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country EVERY DAY, according to the Department of Justice.
Balfour’s mother, of course, says that her son had nothing to do with it and that he was with “one of his girlfriends.” While he hasn’t been charged yet, it’s recently been speculated that if he is the killer he may have had help. And if he is guilty, I hope to God that he DID have help, because I can’t imagine anything worse than killing your own child, step or not … except perhaps living with the fact that you chose someone to come into your life who would murder your child.
From his mother, Julia’s, myspace page, posted October 29:
… NOW BECAUSE I CHOSE TO DO WHAT WAS NATURAL TO ME AND LOVE SOMEONE, IT COST ME MY BEAUTIFUL FAMILY MY WONDERFUL BEAUTIFUL LOVING SUPPORTING MOTHER DARNELL, MY TRUE BLUE BABY BROTHER JASON, I LOVE U BIG BABY …
AND LAST BUT NEVER NOT LEAST MY ONLY SON JULIAN, MY INNOCENT BABY ONE THAT WAS SHELTERED FROM ALL THE EVIL OIN THE WORLD BECAUSE WE LOVED HIM SO MUCH… BUT THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR LOVING SUPPORT, I KNOW SOME OF YAL HAVE YOUR OPINIONS AND YOU ARE ENTITLED TO THAT , LIKE WHY IS SHE LOGGING ON TO MYSPACE AT A TIME LIKE THIS , LET ME TELL YOU WHY I WAS HOPING THAT , THAT WAS A WAY TO MAYBE HELP ME GET MY SON, MY BABY THE ONE I CARRIED UNDER MY HEART FOR 8 1/2 MONTHS THE SON IT TOOK ME 21 HOURS OF LABOR TO BRING HERE THE SON I GREW TO KNOW AND LOVE FOR JUST A FEW MONTHS OVER 7 YEARS THATS WHY …
Unfortunately for Hudson’s family – and too many others – there are way too many questions and not enough answers. And even if answers do emerge, they won’t do anything to bring back those beautiful lives lost.