I'm a Skinny Bitch – and Proud of It

Carrie Seim is a skinny bitch, and is proud of it.
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I’m a Skinny Bitch – and Proud of It

How can one magazine photo stir up so much body hate?

Carrie Seim

A toned female body

When Glamour printed a photo of nearly naked Lizzi Miller, highlighting her belly fat and stretch marks, I braced myself. Not because of the pic – Lizzi’s empirically beautiful and magazines should show women of all shapes and sizes – but I knew an onslaught was coming.

The photo sparked a storm of media and impassioned comments from readers. Sure enough, most of those comments heaped praise on “real women” and vitriol on thin (presumably “fake”) women.

Well guess what? I’m a skinny bitch – and proud of it. I’m 5’4″ tall, 100 pounds, with toned arms and defined abs. But it’s not like any of those things just appeared on my pillow from the skinny fairy. I work hard for my body, and I’m no more a “fake” woman than you are.

Man, am I tired of either having to hide my thinness or be hated for it. It reminds me of a scene from Mean Girls, where newcomer Cady fumbles her way through the confusing jungle of popular girl politics:

Regina: But you’re, like, really pretty.
Cady: Thank you.
Regina: So you agree?
Cady: What?
Regina: You think you’re really pretty?

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

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18 thoughts on “I'm a Skinny Bitch – and Proud of It

  1. Very good article. I wish I could feel comfortable in my own skin and maybe someday I will. The way you feel about yourself really affects your day to day life. I’ve met women who are very plus sized who are happy as clams in their skin and okay with the fact that they are “big girls”. I also have some very thin friends who are very uncomfortable with how they look because of the way people view them.

    I only wish that magazines would feature a variety of body types so that we can all feel that we’re okay the way we are or at least not be the driving force behind trying to be something else.

  2. I’m a skinny bitch too! I’m sick of reading magazines that go on about how great and healthy a curvy woman looks, and then lay into celebs who are size 6 or smaller for being ‘unhealthy’ and telling them to eat more. I’ve read articles out and out calling skinny women liars if they claim to eat fast food. Urgh.

  3. Well guess what? Im a fat bitch ,and proud of it. Women come in all shapes and sizes. Love what God gave you. All types of men hit of me. just today, a middle aged man, hit on me at a store.

  4. Moderation is the spice of life. I’m an eating disorder survivor, a size 4/6 and am very happy with regular exercise and a french fry every now and then. Depriving yourself all the time isn’t fun–and usually not fun to hang out with, either.

  5. Wow I’ve so often thought about this side of this discussion… I’m “morbidly obese” according to those cruel BMI standards (190 lbs) and so I do enjoy reading articles about how curviness is ok…but I absolutely hate when the skinny-attacks start, when people start claiming that the only way to be thin is to starve yourself to extreme extremes or something like that… saw a comment recently on some article about curvy women that said having sex with a woman with a supermodel look was like “fucking a hanger”… I can see absolutely NO DIFFERENCE between that comment than saying that having sex with a fat woman is like fucking a whale… its absolutely as hurtful :( Well, I guess that when its of one’s own accord that a person is a size 0 its not as bad as insulting a fat person that simply cant control his or her body weight, but a close friend of mine is one of those girls who simply does not gain weight no matter what she does or eats, sticking out bones and all that, she was endlessly made fun of as a child (shes also very tall) and for her to read comments like that is just horrible..

    Anyways, I’m rambling.. and I guess thats just the way the world turns, people are mean…but I encourage people to thoroughly read over what they post on the internet, whether their identities are hidden or not…

  6. Right on…I completely agree with you. I am 5’10” tall and when I was younger I was between 130-140, now that i’m getting older I’m between 160-170, but it’s still a healthy and skinny look. I too have had people say things like ‘it must be nice, or how lucky for you’. I’m sick of it, I work out everyday! Where as I may eat what I want, I follow the ‘everything in moderation’ theme. Yes, I have chocolate, but not the entire freaking back at once. Cheers to you for speaking up and being happy and proud of who you are….I’m right there with you!!

  7. I too am annoyed at the assumptions that skinny women are not “real” and that they need to starve/overexercise themselves to get that way. We are NOT all anorexic! I’ve been skinny my whole life and am now 40 and still 5’5, 105 pounds. No, I don’t have to work at it. I eat what I like. I had a baby and got up to 150 pounds – dropped it all within a month after giving birth. It’s my genetic makeup. Doesn’t make me less “real”. Just the same for larger sized women. They are not gorging themselves every minute – they simply have a genetic makeup that makes them more prone to put on weight! The only women who are not “real” are the ones getting tons of plastic surgery for fake boobs or fake noses. Now that’s creepy. Let’s all just be happy with how we naturally look and appreciate each others’ differences!

  8. Great article!!! It couldn’t have been written any better! I’ve been encountering the same problem for years now, finally someone brave enough to set things right! Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!!!

  9. i thought that photo of her in glamour was gorgeous! she had the courage to do it and that makes her even MORE sexy! I know I could never feel comfortable at 5’6 and 170 lbs taking pictures like that

  10. “Wouldn’t it be great if we could all be proud of own bodies – in whatever shape or size – and stop criticizing each other?”

    Absolutely and that’s the point. Everyone has the right to their opinion and of course someone is going to feel attacked whenever they are singled out and ridiculed for something that is personal to them. I say a big congrats to the writer of this article for being so disciplined, yes it does take work and as long as you’re happy with your choices, then good for you :)

    I think that women especially need to come together and support eachother now more than ever in accepting themselves just the way they are and living a healthy lifestyle. Society is really ugly and is turning us against eachother, it’s a shame but I think we all love our sisters regardless of what they look like.

  11. Great article!!! It couldn't have been written any better! I've been encountering the same problem for years now, finally someone brave enough to set things right! Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!!!

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