Just Another Manic Mommy
I’m Getting Separated but Just Found Out I’m Pregnant
Dear Manic Mommy: This makes me a horrible person for even asking, but I need help. My husband and I have been on the rocks off and on and I finally came to the conclusion that I have had enough. I just found out that I am 14 weeks pregnant with my second child. I am due to start school full time in a few weeks for nursing and am working at a local bar. We are deciding to separate and everyone is upset with us for thinking it, which made us stay together in the past.
First, I had a few drinks the other night and am worried, but at the same time I am wondering if I should keep the baby? My husband is up in the air as well. WE are separating and having another baby. Is it a good idea? Also, with a 3-year-old how am I to be a good mom to him and do what I need to do to succeed? And how can I do it with another one? I have been thinking about abortion. Sometimes I think about my son having a sibling to go through this with him. I am also very depressed. How do I figure this out? I only have a few days to decide.
Manic Mommy: My heart goes out to all of you involved in this extremely hard situation and I wish I could be more help to you but you need to seek out professional help on this matter immediately. The decisions you need to make are of a VERY personal choice and I am in no position to make a decision like that for you.
You are definitely NOT a horrible person; you are going through a very tough time in your life and you need to speak with your family doctor or a professional therapist to get the perspective you need to make the decisions that will be right for all involved for the rest of your lives. I do wish you all the best and am hopeful for a good outcome for all of you.