What Would Debbie Do?
My husband is accusing me of having an affair with another man. He is so paranoid that he demands that I come straight home after work. Yesterday my sister was in the ICU and I stayed at the hospital with her until 9:00 p.m., and once I arrived back home my husband was furious. What do you think I should do?
I am assuming that you are NOT having an affair and are being wrongly accused. But I have to ask you, why does your husband suspect this? Are you acting differently? Are you spending time with others that could be misconstrued? What actions are you engaging in to make your husband feel this way?
While I’m not saying it’s your fault, I am saying that most people just don’t accuse and become paranoid with no concrete reason. If, however, this is the case, and your husband just overreacts, then I think you need to calm his fears in a reasonable manner, and deal with the issues at hand. It is untenable to be in a situation where your every move is reviewed and picked apart. However, you need to assess what is making your husband feel this way, and then get to some kind of resolution that calms his fears, and allows you to move freely in your life.
That’s what I would do…