ASK REAL GUYS
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I quizzed a male friend on what causes men to leave, and his response was – women think too much, guys “just move on.” I was involved with a man for two years before we called it quits almost a year ago. It was a bitter breakup, and I have not heard from him since – nor do I really expect to. We sincerely loved each other at one time and it pains me to think of the way things ended. I have considered writing to him on numerous occasions; I would like to thank him for the good times, to apologize, and to wish him well. I feel that this would provide me with some closure, as I don’t want to “go to my grave” without getting a few things off my chest. I do feel that he should have apologized on his own by now, but that’s beside the point. What do you think I should do?
Avery: You can’t expect that your ex-boyfriend wants to take the same approach as you in writing an apology letter. If you feel that YOU being able to move on is dependent on writing him a letter expressing your feelings, then just do it and then move on. Don’t expect that what’s good for you is good for him, but I applaud your plan to put things in writing in an effort to clear your mind. You may be better at this relationship stuff than you think!