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Let’s Get Physical
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I have been dating the same guy for a year and a half. Our relationship initially started out rocky due to our living arrangements, but since then we have gotten along famously. We communicate really well, and we do things together as a couple, our kids even like each other.
The only issue right now is that he is not interested in sex, at all. He hugs and kisses but it never goes anywhere. I have not put on weight or shaved my head. We have talked about the issue time and again. He says that it never feels like the right time. I have tried to combat that with setting up romantic dinners at home without the kids and I still get blown off. He would rather be on his computer than make love. I am at a loss and think that I would be better off alone than somewhere that I am not wanted.
Avery: You need to get into some marriage or sexual therapy counseling immediately, something is not right. Have you asked your boyfriend if he is gay? Maybe his life before you when he had his children was a life that really was not him and now he is continuing “the lie.” Considering that you’ve only been together for a year and a half, something’s not right. And if you’re doing things like arranging romantic dinners, etc. and he’s STILL not interested, it’s time to put on your Sherlock Holmes hat and do some investigating. This equation is NOT adding up!