Learn to Love Yourself

Don't ever wish yourself back in time, you are perfect just the way you are.

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Don’t Wish Yourself Back in Time

This year, enjoy where you are and how you look!

-Candace Cavanaugh Buehner

Betty’s New Year, New You Series is dedicated to making 2009 your best year ever. Find more articles in the series below.

woman standing by a mirrorWhen I was little, I read a story about a “magic mirror.” The girl in the book discovered the mirror in her grandmother’s attic, and when she looked in the mirror, she found she could actually CHANGE her appearance, at will. Yet what does the silly ninny wind up doing? She decides that she is “happy with herself as she is” and puts the mirror away.

I always hated that ending – I mean, who WOULDN’T want to try long blonde (completely natural-looking) hair and perhaps hips that aren’t “made for birthing children,” or any number of combinations not allowed by your own genetic constraints? But I find as I grow older, and the need for expensive face products becomes more apparent every day, the message of that story stays with me.

Don’t get me wrong, if I had a way to banish the very sobering reality I face each time I get in a Macy’s dressing room (three-way mirrors are standard), I would. My feeble attempts at regular exercise are aimed toward that likely unreachable goal. However, I have concluded that it’s much cheaper, and less dangerous, to try to take what God has given you and make it work for you, than it is to wish yourself, surgically or even emotionally, into a different physical person.

Spanx, a good support bra and makeup can work wonders. So can an attitude that says “I have EARNED these years, and I have paid with them in the currency of my own SELF (but not in a prostitute-y sort of way).” In a society that worships the bright, shiny and new, it’s hard to remember that part of your beauty is borne from your own individual experience. Would you trade your wisdom for a trip back in time, maybe back to when you were 22? You may have had flawless skin, but you also had a crappy apartment, idiot boyfriend, and (proven through photos) perplexing fashion choices.

So, with this New Year focus on the fact that you don’t need a “New You,” when the “Old You” is perfectly good – and maybe even outstanding! Okay, maybe not “outstanding,” but “really pretty okay and frankly, better than most.”

You don’t need a magic mirror, sister. You just need a healthy appreciation for YOURSELF.

Candace Cavanaugh Buehner lives and works outside of Detroit, Michigan, where the face creams that she buys on Ebay had BETTER start working. Very, very soon.

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0 thoughts on “Learn to Love Yourself

  1. Reinvent girl says:

    Cheers! I agree.The first step is to be comfortable with and like yourself instead of resolving to change yourself.

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