In Her Words
Why Should Only Men Give Valentine’s Day Gifts?
Women shouldn’t be the only ones to get V-Day treats
February is here, ladies – the month of candy-coated hearts and lacey lingerie. Some of us look forward to this month all year long, anticipating a romantic Valentine’s date, while others dread it, afraid of what our boyfriends will concoct in the kitchen. Whether we love it or hate it, we are accustomed to being on the receiving end of the “gift giving process.”
To most of us women who are involved in relationships, it’s definitely a nice feeling to know that when Valentine’s Day arrives, we should expect some sort of token gift, even if it’s a sweet and sentimental card. But where in the unwritten rules of the holiday states that just the woman should expect something special on February 14?
When recently discussing this holiday with a group of my friends, they all seemed to agree that even though times have changed regarding women’s roles, men are still “supposed” to be the ones to purchase gifts, send flowers to the office and make extravagant dinner reservations.
“This has always been the holiday for women — not from women,” my friend, the businesswoman, said.
Similarly, a 25-year-old woman said that although she believes women can be the leaders of their personal relationships, she still expects that her long-term boyfriend will whisk her away on Valentine’s night to a romantic restaurant and that her only job is to show up.
“I want to know that he put time into planning the night; I deserve it,” she said.
We do deserve to be serenaded, but that doesn’t have to mean that men deserve nothing.
Although there are some of us who do buy our boy-toys red silk boxers and chocolate shaped footballs, most of us, for one reason or another, have been programmed to think that the purchasing of gifts and the holiday planning is solely the man’s responsibility.
But here’s what I think: This old-fashioned attitude should stop immediately, if not sooner. We are no longer confined to the stereotypical roles we used to be; one of us ran for president, one of us ran for vice-president, many of us are proposing marriage, heading businesses and picking up the check, so why can’t we be the ones to send flowers to our husbands and cook romantic dinners for our boyfriends?
“It would be great if my wife surprised me on Valentine’s Day with a nice dinner and told me that I didn’t have to worry about anything,” one 27-year-old newly married man said.
Another man who has been married for 10-plus years said that he is the one to make the “big plans.”
“My wife will give me a card and some chocolate, which is nice, but I always make the reservations for dinner and entertainment. I’d love it if she initiated the plans.”
With days left until Valentine’s Day, let’s to step up to the plate and take charge of the celebration. We still have time to go shopping and schedule a night on the town that our men will never forget.
And you may ask what am I giving my man? I plan on cooking him a scrumptious candlelit dinner that will keep him coming back for more, and for dessert, well, you can use your imagination.
Now that I have inspired you — what are you going to do for your guy on Valentine’s Day or night?