Obamas Inspire Date Night
If they can do it …
-Julie Ryan Evans
So I’m thinking if the leader of the free world and his wife can make time for regular date nights, my husband and I really should be able to work something out once in awhile.
I was all geared up after our Vegas getaway to plan more adult-only time with my husband. Of course, almost a month has gone by, and we haven’t had any dates per se … OK, not at all.
Then I read about Barack and Michelle going out for regular date nights – a few weeks ago they flew to New York just for dinner and Broadway show. This past weekend they even made time for date night while in France dining together at a small bistro. Still so sweet and so romantic after 16 years of marriage; making time for each other despite the economic crisis, the war and … oh, running our country. But I can’t seem to fit it in among soccer games and birthday parties?
Of course, there are a couple of differences between the Obamas and my husband and me – the 24/7 babysitters they have, the lack of laundry to do and meals to make, the loads of cash, the professional food taster (love that!) and, oh, yeah, a plane at their disposal. But I don’t need Paris and Broadway every week (note to husband: that doesn’t mean I don’t need them EVER), I just need time with my husband away from the demands and interrupting voices of our children once in a while.
Some have criticized the First Couple for spending taxpayer funds to fly to New York for just one night. But I say good for them for keeping up with the date nights anyway, for demonstrating to this country what a (by all appearances) happy marriage looks like. And aren’t many of those who are bashing him for this the same ones who think the breakdown of the traditional family can be blamed for most of our country’s woes?
And let’s face it, there are very few famous couples who show us that good example … for very long at least. So if he wants to use my tax dollars to go on some dates, I say go ahead. Of course, while he’s at it, if he could find a few ways to give me back some of my tax dollars to fund my own date nights, that would be even better …
My husband and I will celebrate our 10-year anniversary this July, and I can probably count on two hands the number of dates we’ve gone on alone since having children five years ago. Sad, I know.
We met and started dating while we lived and worked in D.C. It was a time when we both had decent-paying jobs but no real expenses like mortgages and schools and camps for kids. We went on tons of great dates and let The Washington Post be our guide to an amazing array of the newest restaurants, best performances, and even local hotels that we’d check in just a night for the experience.
Thinking about the Obamas going on weekly dates at some of the same places we frequented makes me nostalgic for that part of our lives that’s been replaced with bedtime baths and stays at the Nickelodeon Hotel instead of The Ritz. I love parenthood and all it entails, but still the First Couple is a good reminder that putting your relationship first and modeling a loving, committed marriage is one of the most important things you can do for your children.
Now, we just need to do it.
So tell me, do you go on regular date nights with your husband, and if so, what do you do?