Four marijuana-using mommies open up to BettyConfidential
-Amy Levin Epstein
Moms who drink stir up plenty of opinions, but what about moms who go a step further and imbibe in an illegal substance – marijuana? Four women talk candidly with BettyConfidential about pot and parenting.
First, meet our panel:
Melissa*, 42, from Florida, is married with two sons, 15 and 11, and works in drug policy. “I prefer cannabis to alcohol if I’m going to use something in a social setting. I prefer cannabis to pharmaceuticals if I have pain that I want to deal with.”
Wendy*, 36, from Tennessee, is single with two sons, 14 and 16, and owns a daycare business. “I had one child at 18 and one child at 20. My mother introduced me to it when I was 21. One day she saw that I was very stressed, showing obsessive-compulsive signs, anxiety. She thought it would help.”
Erin Hildebrandt, 38, from Oregon, is married with three sons, 14, 13 and 9, and two daughters, 7 and 11. She works as an artist, activist and writer. “I have numerous ailments, including Crohn’s disease and severe, intractable migraines for which my doctor recommends I use cannabis [and I am] a legally registered participant in the Oregon Medical Marijuana Program. Additionally, I use it to ease the symptoms of PTSD (anxiety, sleep problems, etc.), resulting from childhood sexual abuse.”
Lisa*, 36 age, from Colorado, is a stay-at-home mom with three kids aged 5, 4, and 2. “I smoke when I really need to relax, de-stress and refocus.”
We asked our panelists some questions about their marijuana use and its affect on their parenting. Here are their very candid answers:
Do your children know you smoke pot?
Melissa: My kids have known as much as was age-appropriate from the minute it was appropriate to talk to them. They are 100 percent aware that I smoke. I don’t hide it in from them.
Erin: I don’t smoke around my kids. I take my medicine either outside or in a private, well-ventilated room that only I use.
Do you use other drugs in addition to marijuana?
Wendy: I have tried other drugs [when] I was a lot younger. I did [cocaine] once or twice. I guess I enjoyed it at the time but I didn’t enjoy how I felt afterwards.