Should You Ever Spank Your Kids?

The ladies of The View may disagree, but experts say you shouldn't spank. Ever.
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Should You Ever Spank Your Kids?

The ladies of The View may disagree, but experts say you shouldn’t spank. Ever.

-Julie Ryan Evans

Naughty Child

When it comes to spanking, the ladies of The View disagree … of course.

This week Sheri Shepherd and Whoopi Goldberg said they aren’t opposed to an occasional swat. “I believe that there are some times when a swat is what you’ve got to do and it’s okay that other people don’t feel like that,” Goldberg said on the show this week as the group discussed parenting topics.

Joy Behr, on the other hand, said she doesn’t think anyone should ever spank a child. “We’re putting out a message to the world and to women, who are at their tethered edge and who might lose control and say it’s okay to spank and then they go over the edge.”

Elisabeth Hasselbeck is still out on maternity leave and didn’t weigh in, but we have a feeling this is one topic she just might agree on with Joy.

But despite the ladies’ mixed views, there’s little disagreement among experts when it comes to spanking. While it was parenting de rigueur for years, evidence increasingly shows that sparing the rod will not, in fact, spoil the child, but instead will spare them from some long-term damaging effects of spanking.

One new study shows shows that children who are spanked at the age of 1 are more aggressive by the age of 2, and also don’t perform as well on cognitive tests as children who weren’t spanked.

While not conclusive, there are “many other studies which have shown that kids who have been treated with hostility grow up to display hostility themselves and become more aggressive as adults,” according to Dr. Joanne Stern, a psychotherapist and mother. “Kids who have been abused grow up to become abusers. Teaching kids responsibility, internal limits and respect for authority is an important goal of parenting, but spanking may be the least effective route to get there,” she says.

Another recent study says that spanking causes a child’s IQ to drop!

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  1. I agree with Sheri and Whoopi… occassionally and not TOO violently I think it could be helpful.
    And I really don’t think it causes your IQ to drop. I remember being spanked a couple times when I was little for doing very bad things and I turned out just fine!

  2. I don’t believe in spanking. It doesn’t teach your children anything and I think parents that do spank act out of anger and a lack of self-control. We do time out, but I also believe consequences, such as taking things away, like Wii (as Julie described) is an effective form of discipline.

  3. MarylandMom5, I disagree. I am the mother of three little girls, and the oldest two do get the occasional spanking when all else fails. And I don’t do in out of anger or a lack of self-control. Don’t judge me or anyone else that spank just because you don’t do it. I am glad your form of discipline works for you; however you don’t live with me or my children, so you have no place to tell me what to do.

  4. I absolutely agree that spanking can be necessary. Oftentimes, I will talk to my child then wait to calm down before I give her a “tap tap” so as to ensure that I’m not doing it for the wrong reasons. Children are very strong-willed and many times stubborn. I can talk until I’m blue in the face, but the children I know will remember what I’m saying and make an effort to do better if the threat of a spanking looms.

  5. Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

    Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

    Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

    I think the reason why television shows like “Supernanny” and “Dr. Phil” are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

    There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn’t a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

    Plain Talk About Spanking
    by Jordan Riak,

    The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
    by Tom Johnson,

    by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

    Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit

    Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn’t a good idea:

    American Academy of Pediatrics,
    American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
    Center For Effective Discipline,
    PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals,
    Churches’ Network For Non-Violence,
    Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
    Parenting In Jesus’ Footsteps,
    Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
    United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

    In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

  6. The last comment is a little heavy but I agree with it in principle, I DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHY THE BEATING HAS TO BE ON THE ASS! If I ever lose my temper with my daughter, I might slap her hand lightly, but to hit her in such a private area? And some even pull down the pants, its just disturbing…

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