Six Ways to Guarantee a Successful First Date

Happy Humpy Day Ladies! Back by popular demand, we bring you this article again on how to do your first date right!
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Six Ways to Guarantee a Successful First Date

Happy Humpy Day ladies! Back by popular demand, we bring you this article again on how to do your first date right!

-Amber Madison

First date

First dates are rough. So rough, in fact, that many people feel they need a pre-date drink just to make it out the door. But what if there were things you could do to make the date more comfortable – as well as some easy ways to gauge his interest? Well, wish no longer: Today, I’m going to tell you about the three signals you can give off to help make things more relaxed and open between the two of you, and three signs from him that you should be on the lookout for, on your next first date.

First things first, ladies. Here’s how you can manipulate your body language to make your date more comfortable:

1. Don’t sit directly across from him. Perhaps there’s a reason that the word “date” conjures up those classic images of a guy and girl sitting side-by-side, sharing a chocolate malt. When you sit directly across from your date, it gives off a confrontational vibe. “It elicits a fight-or-flight response and creates stress,” says Janine Driver, author of the bestselling You Say More Than You Think. “If you can’t sit side-by-side, then push your chair to one side of the table as you sit down.” Driver suggests aiming to sit about 30% off-center; so if you’re sitting opposite him, you’d both be able to stretch your legs out without hitting each other.

2. Keep your hands where he can see them. You’re not some wilting flower, you’re a secure modern woman. Show your confidence by relaxing your hands and placing them on the table. Says Driver: “Keeping your hands in your lap is too passive. You want to go into a date with confidence, which also helps the guy feel confident, so you’re really doing him a favor.”

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3. Smile, for real. There’s nothing worse than a disingenuous smile, and people pick up on it very easily. “In a real smile your eyes are involved,” says Greg Hartley, author of Date Decoder. In less flattering terms, when you smile sincerely your crow’s feet come out. But your willingness to go there – being open and relaxed enough to let loose – can go a long way toward making him feel comfortable (and it may help you feel less anxious, too). So even if you’re feeling a little nervous, don’t be afraid to flash a few big let-it-all-hang-out smiles.


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0 thoughts on “Six Ways to Guarantee a Successful First Date

  1. FBNYC says:

    Smiling for real is a big one. I think everyone can tell when a smile is fake.

  2. uptowngirl says:

    I agree – if I can’t smile organically on a first date, I won’t want a second, and he probably won’t either!

  3. citymouse says:

    Not sure what I think about this “don’t sit directly opposite him” advice…wouldn’t that feel awkward? Will have to give it a try on my next first date.

  4. jessica03 says:

    this article is such a perfect timing. i have a date tonight! thanks article!

  5. KittyK says:

    I found being genuinely interested in what he says can bring on authentic smiles. It also worked in that the favour was happily returned! *grins* Haven’t had another “first date” since *that* one… 2 years and a diamond ago ;)

  6. ImJack says:

    being a super shy guy i can say that without two sets of chemistry complimenting each other any sort of real interaction probably should never happen unless you both want to be merely two ships passing in the night. which is not really such a bad thing after all is said and done but, this is about attaining the all important 2nd date isn’t it?

  7. festivelady826 says:

    I’m with KittyK – being interested in what he is saying brings on genuine smiles from him. One can tell in a hundred different ways, other than overt body language, if he is enjoying the date. Maybe because I’m an old lady now who hasn’t had a date in 10 years, but I still believe I would know if he was having fun without having to count how many times he touched me.
    And, KittyK, good for you, honey! You obviously didn’t need to count those touches, either!

  8. shyguy-sdwyz8 says:

    Great article! But being a guy i dont exactly know how ill feel if she sits next me, itll seem a little awkward, but hey who knows!

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