Surviving a Wedding – A Dateless Girl’s Guide
Five tips for coping (while still toasting) weddings as a single girl
Another black strapless dress, a second piece of fondant cake, one too many champagne flutes … and six slow dances spent sighing at the singles’ table. Been there, done that? Ditto. Being dateless at a wedding can, well, bite, but that’s no reason not to shake your groove thang, flaunt that fabulous frock and snack on all the shrimp cocktail you can. And while you’re at it, dive for the bouquet too – couldn’t hurt, right?
Here are a few tips, from one single wedding guest gal to another, to get through yet another Build Me Up Buttercup cover – solo!
1. Become the life of the party, without drinking up all the party life.
There’s a fine line between being a “fun single guest” and “who the heck is that girl?” And that line usually runs parallel to the open bar. Even though you may genuinely be overjoyed to celebrate the new couple’s happiness, it’s normal to feel a pit in your stomach while witnessing all that undying love. And it’s even more normal to seek out your own love at the bottom of a wine glass. Be careful not to go there, and keep your single, but in-control, self sober (or even sober-ish). You’ll be glad you did.
2. Draw the right kind of attention to yourself.
Vince Vaughn in Wedding Crashers gave us a statement to live by when faced with singledom (at a wedding or wherever):”Do not sit in the corner and sulk. It draws attention in a negative way. Draw attention to yourself, but on your own terms.” He couldn’t have been more right on. Nothing is worse than feeling sorry for yourself, and showing it, so don’t! Ask the also single (and slightly awkward) brother-in-law to dance, be front-and-center for the cake-cutting and clap enthusiastically after the best man’s toast. You’ll be so into it all, soon you’ll be asking yourself “Single who?”