The 6 Sex Toys and Accessories Every Woman Needs

From the latest gadgets to the hottest lingerie, these must-have items are guaranteed to spice up your sex life.
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If the phrase “sex toys” makes you blush, you’re not alone. The sex toy world can be very intimidating to women who’ve yet to explore its many options. Not only is there a huge assortment of items to choose from, but some pieces just look downright scary. Wait, you want me to put that where? No way!

Of course, the main purpose for most of these naughty items is to help a woman experience maximum pleasure, and we’re all for that. But if that’s all you think they’re good for, think again. “My philosophy is that sex toys and accessories are like lip gloss – you don’t need them, but they certainly make you feel happier, sexier and more feminine,” says Dana B. Myers, founder of Booty Parlor Inc., a sexy online boutique with fans like Angelina Jolie, Carmen Electra, and Jennifer Love Hewitt.

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According to New York-based sex therapist, Dr. Joy Davidson, there are plenty of reasons why sexy toys and accessories can be a smart investment for all sexually active women:

• “When you buy items that are designed for no other purpose than to give sexual pleasure,” says Dr. Joy, “you’re making a statement to yourself that says, ‘I’m sexy, I’m desirable, and I’m not a passive participant in sex. In fact, my partner is not the only source of my pleasure – I am, too.’”

• “When you learn how to pleasure yourself and what type of stimulation works for you, you can pass that information on to your partner and teach him what works. It’s silly to expect someone else to get you off if you can’t do it yourself.”

• “Nowhere is it written that sex is supposed to be dull, boring and simple. And nowhere does it say you can only use what’s attached to your body to give and receive pleasure. Sex is just another aspect of life where we can accessorize!”

• “There are toys being made today that can affect you in a way that no human being can. Their capacity for speed, intensity and consistency of motion are things that a human simply cannot replicate. You’re doing yourself a disservice by not trying these toys and experiencing the pleasure they can bring.”

Convinced? We are! So now it’s on to the next step – navigating the sex toy world. Whether you’re a first-timer or an experienced sex-toy vet, here, according to our experts, are the six items every woman should have in her toy chest:

1. The classic vibrator
It’s basic, yes, but oh-so-necessary. You can go for “The Rabbit,” the friendly vibrator made famous by the Sex and the City gals, or try something different. Dr. Joy suggests getting one that’s adjustable in speed and intensity, makes little noise and focuses primarily on clitoral stimulation. Dana B. Myers recommends The Champ ($36). “It has a silent pitter-patter thump that will deliver a total knockout orgasm,” she says.

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23 thoughts on “The 6 Sex Toys and Accessories Every Woman Needs

  1. I’m always curious about this stuff, but too embarrassed to spend a lot of time looking for more info — great to see it all here in one place!

  2. Great selection! Also, get a girlfriend to go to a sensuality shop with you if you don’t wanna do it over the internet. It’s kinda nice to see everything in person, and less embarrassing if someone’s with ya. :)

  3. @citymouse — find a Passion Parties rep in your area! I’m one in South Florida and let me tell you, there’s nothing more fun (or funnier!) than a bunch of women laughing and talking about sex and sex toys, especially after a glass of wine and some chocolate! I’m sure there are plenty in your area, and the parties are in your homes – no men or kids allowed! – and ordering is done completely confidentially in another room so no one else knows what you buy if you don’t want them to. :)

  4. @Candice – they are! Of course it depends on the “Diva” you get at the party – the first one I went to was kind of blah as far as she went, but the crowd more than made up for it – three generations from one family plus assorted others like me — and it was a BLAST. If you want to see what the company has, I have a website you can look at, and I BELIEVE there is a way to ask for a party where we can hook you up with someone in your area. :)

  5. I love my eroscillator — google it and check out the website — i get off in seconds, literally — it is awesome during sex too — so excellent on the clitoris – i cannot even begin to tell you.

  6. Ladies, you have to try the Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator. It is electric and the industrial strength power tool vibrator that is guaranteed to rock your world. I suggest using it while doing the nasty with the man in your life. You sit astride him facing away and it leaves plenty of room to apply the vibrator without it getting in the way. The guy gets to see his member impaling you which is a huge turn on for him. By riding him on top, you can slow things down and take your time. You need to move just enough to maintain his erection. When he is close to coming, pull off and have him go down on you and get you off again before allowing him to re-enter you. Doing it this way, you can stretch it to a couple of hours of multiple orgasms for you. You might even convince him that long drawn out sex is superior to wam baam thank you maam sex. Be sure to praise him for being a kind and considerate lover and how good he made you feel. It will reinforce that positive behavior and better sex for both of you

  7. Hey ladies – I’m a Sexy Lifestyle Advisor for Booty Parlor -an the Champ and the Naughty Ballerina panties are all available exclusively through Booty Parlor Parties! I’m in Bloomington and you can contact me if you’re interested in having an in-home sexy shopping party, or you can check out to find a Sexy Lifestyle Advisor in your area. Booty Parlor’s products are the highest quality and the prettiest – even down to the packaging and Booty Parlor’s parties are a great way to get your girlfriends together for some sexy social shopping and to learn sexy tips and tricks to amp up your sex appeal and boost your sexy self-confidence. Let me know if you have questions at

  8. Unless people are in long-term relationships or marriages — and even then — no one should need to “accessorize.” The best accessory is a good imagination on the part of both people. Besides,
    these “toys” are over-the-top expensive.

  9. I would disagree bryony. First off for those women such as myself who are single, toys are a great way to satisfy ourselves instead of one night stands etc. Also I believe that thos ein long terms relationships etc. can use toys to make things a bit more exciting as sometimes routine sets in. You also say toys are expensive; Some are some aren’t. I personally have purchased my toys from and have been very pleased with their prices and service. I will agree with another poster here about the Hitachi Magic Wand. It is totally amazing and I would recommend every girl give it a try, you will certainly be glad that you did.

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