Mr.Dress For Success
Supposedly the clothes make the man, but for Ed, a law student from Brooklyn, when a woman notices his fashion sense it makes it all worthwhile. “Once my girlfriend told me she liked my gray slacks,” he said, with obvious pride. “I try to put a lot of thought into my appearance, so that felt really good to hear.” Considering the amount of energy and attention women put into their outfits, any man would be thrilled to hear to have one tell him he’s doing a pretty good job himself.
The CEO in training
A lot of twenty- and thirty-somethings are still trying to “figure it out” or land that big break in the workplace. As far as most guys are concerned, nothing is better than a woman who understands the pain he’s going through and knows how to stand by her man, even if he’s feeling down and struggling to work his way to the top.
“I’m looking for a job,” says Joe, a recent college grad from Pennsylvania. “So it’s nice to hear my girlfriend tell me she’s proud of me and everything I’m doing to find one.” Dave, a writer from East Hampton, NY, digs girls who are into his chosen career and let him know it. “I like when a girl tells me she loves that my job is creative,” he says. “It makes me feel good when women appreciate that I’m a writer and they can see how much I really want to be successful.”
But sometimes, it’s what a woman doesn’t say that makes all the difference. Peter, an aspiring director and photographer who lives in Los Angeles, is a firm believer in this form of flattery. “I don’t get a lot of compliments,” he said. “But as far as I’m concerned, the ultimate compliment is when a girl doesn’t make weird faces when I’m frugal and pull out coupons to pay for dinner. . . . It’s a tough time right now.”
To merge Peter’s thoughts on the rough economy with my first grade teacher’s life philosophy: a compliment doesn’t cost you anything, so you might as well give as many as you can. And if your compliment is over the top, don’t worry, chances are he’s not going to remember it for long anyway.
Tell us: What’s the last compliment you gave a guy?
Justin DeMarco is a New York City-based writer. He co-wrote Hockey: The Musical with Rick Wilson, which premiered at the Toronto Fringe Festival in 2008.