The Truth About Sex Addiction

Could Tiger Woods have a sex addition problem? The facts about this affliction.
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The Truth About Sex Addiction

Could Tiger Woods have a sex addition problem? The facts about this affliction.

-Amber Madison

 Tiger Woods

“Is Tiger Woods a Sex Addict?” So reads the headline of a recent news story on CBS.com and, after being inundated with the sordid details of Tiger’s cheating history (what are we up to now, 10, 12 mistresses?) – it doesn’t sound so crazy. Or does it? is this just a lame excuse concocted by savvy publicists? Or might Tiger really be suffering from an affliction? And more to the point – does it really exist?

You’re probably thinking, “Sex addiction, riiiight – that’s the excuse David Duchovny gave for not being able to keep it in his pants.” But sex addiction is very much a real problem. Real enough to spur a new VH1 Dr. Drew Pinsky series, Sex Rehab, a segment on Oprah, and six, yes six, different anonymous recovery groups.

Most people like sex. Think about it a lot. And even go to great lengths to seek it out. But at what point is it an addiction?

According to sexhelp.com, a website run by sex addiction specialist Dr. Patrick J. Carnes, sex addiction can be defined as “any sexually-related, compulsive behavior which interferes with normal living.” Sex addiction isn’t necessarily about having a lot of sex as much as it is having a sexual behavior that a person can’t stop even when he or she wants to — because they are hurting their loved ones or themselves by doing it.

A sex addict may be a guy who spends all of his money on prostitutes, a guy who can’t stop masturbating once he starts, a woman who tries to sleep with all of her friends boyfriend’s to feel powerful, or someone who feels an uncontrollable urge to have sex with many different partners. Somewhat ironically, many sex addicts don’t even really enjoy having sex. They don’t feel anything while they’re doing the deed, and many don’t even have orgasms. And after they have had sex they feel a great sense of guilt or shame.

“Almost always a sex addict lacks normal coping mechanisms and uses sex as a way to self-medicate every feeling. They use it when they feel sad, when they are celebrating, or when they are bored,” explains Sharon O’Hara, the clinical director of the Sexual Recovery Institute in Los Angeles. It’s a compulsion: sex addicts turn to sex when they need comfort, just like binge eaters turn to food. “Sex addiction is almost always about a secret life.” O’Hara adds. “Sex addicts lie to their loved ones about their addiction. They lie about everything – where they are, and what they’re doing.”


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  1. RaineyO says:

    He’s just a total uncaring jerk for choosing to be with these other women rather than spending time with his family. How many famous people/stars are out there sleeping around continually with multiple partners…are they “addicts”, too, or is it just totally accepted behavior just because they aren’t married? What is a sex addict really??? I think a lot of folks could be addicts…..single and married.

  2. bryony1 says:

    Just because there’s “a new VH1 Dr. Drew Pinsky series, Sex Rehab, a segment on Oprah, and six, yes six, different anonymous recovery groups,” doesn’t mean this “disease” is anything more than a way to make money for those agreeing it exists and from “caught” celebrities to make excuses for philandering. How many poor people get it or are treated for it? It’s just DRIVEL!

  3. bobby90247 says:

    Hey “bryony1″, I see not everyone believes what they have read. There may be hope for the “general” public yet! Although many studies, experts, and researchers say that addiction is a disease, does not make it “true”. “…seek, and you will fine…” and discover there is, NO such thing as “addiction” !

  4. NYCdogmommy says:

    As someone who was unfortunately involved with a sex addict back in the late 90s and yes it does exist, and yes it can tear a family apart. My then BF spent EVERY dime he had (when he was alone of course) on phone sex lines, on demand porn, dancers, you name it. To look at him and the way he acted in public, you’d never think he had a problem. It wasn’t until he was arrested and then forced to seek help, did he do anything about. He had to go to mandatory SAA (sex addiction anonymous) meetings and see a therapist.

  5. sunnismile says:

    The sex addict thing seems unbelievable to me. Though I strongly think I experience some of those things, I dont go acting erotic. I beg my BF to communicate with me everytime I get those urges.Once it overcame me and I was unfaithful, I immediately confessed and he forgave me, by the way Im female. He doesnt let me or himself forget and I feel bad. Anyway I guess its something I struggle with. I struggle plenty……..

  6. xve says:

    Monogamy is not the natural state anyway. It is a social construct developed to keep the peace.

  7. bslawski says:

    @sunnismile
    You said that you struggle with what seems to be an above average libido, but are (usually) able to control it in a healthy manner. Is that hard to believe that someone with stronger urges than you might not be able to control it?
    It just puzzles me that you admit that some people have sex drives that lead them to do things that they shouldn’t, and that even you can’t always control it, but refuse to accept that anyone might struggle with it more than you. Seems like a pretty selfish point of view to me…

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