Wait It Out
Some advise Elin to not be too quick to leave, and recommend she take some time making her decision.
Maggie, 56, from Seattle, says she’d remind Elin that right now she’s in control and doesn’t need to make any sudden moves if she doesn’t want to: “You’ve been handling this situation with extraordinary grace and courage. You’re doing all the right things, looking gorgeous, holding your head high, taking care of your kids, going home to your family and not losing your cool in public…. Don’t make any promises to him yet, but don’t be too quick to divorce him either. It’s really tough on kids, harder than you may now realize. Line up your lawyers and make a list of expectations, with financial consequences. Secure your financial and emotional future and make him earn your trust again. However this ends up in the future, you’re in the driver’s seat now. Stay strong!”
Says Mayumi, 30, from Los Angeles: “I think Elin should leave if she truly cannot foresee forgiving her husband and moving forward. I don’t think she should leave to prove a point, nor should she be judged by staying. It looks like Tiger is trying to take responsibility for his actions, and with kids at stake there’s nothing wrong with exploring a reunion. I think it will take time, but Elin should test the waters and see how she feels. If she still loves Tiger and he can prove to be trustworthy let the re-building begin!”
“Of course I believe in forgiveness,” adds Jennifer, 27, of Dallas. “I hope Elin can get to that point.”
If Tiger and Elin end up working out their differences, Nicole, a 21-year-old student from Davis, CA, suggests that Elin may want to turn the heat back on all the way: “Spice things up and take control in the bedroom.”
Sure it’s helpful to hear what your girlfriends have to say, but sometimes it’s best to call in a pro. So what would an expert say to Elin? “He did not sound like he was saying anything different to me,” says Los Angeles-based psychologist Dr. Morris Halperin of Tiger’s apology on Friday. “There’s a lot of pressure on her. What he did was virtually unforgivable. The only way she can truly forgive him is if she observes a clear change in his behavior. It’s going to take a long time.”
Although Elin Woods has dealt with public humiliation and embarrassment, ironically this former nanny is now in an extremely powerful position. Mrs. Woods has a big decision to make, but she now has the upper hand and can do what she wants on her own time, while the man who is arguably the world’s best golfer has to put all of the determination that he normally uses on the green into saving his relationship with his wife and family. For Tiger Woods, the stakes have never been higher.
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Libby Keatinge is the author of Beverly Hills Tutor. She also writes for international lifestyle publications.