What Should Elin Woods Do Next?

Real women - and former Hollywood madam Heidi Fleiss - offer their advice to Tiger Woods' estranged wife.
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Tiger Woods Family

Wait It Out
Some advise Elin to not be too quick to leave, and recommend she take some time making her decision.

Maggie, 56, from Seattle, says she’d remind Elin that right now she’s in control and doesn’t need to make any sudden moves if she doesn’t want to: “You’ve been handling this situation with extraordinary grace and courage. You’re doing all the right things, looking gorgeous, holding your head high, taking care of your kids, going home to your family and not losing your cool in public…. Don’t make any promises to him yet, but don’t be too quick to divorce him either. It’s really tough on kids, harder than you may now realize. Line up your lawyers and make a list of expectations, with financial consequences. Secure your financial and emotional future and make him earn your trust again. However this ends up in the future, you’re in the driver’s seat now. Stay strong!”

Says Mayumi, 30, from Los Angeles: “I think Elin should leave if she truly cannot foresee forgiving her husband and moving forward. I don’t think she should leave to prove a point, nor should she be judged by staying. It looks like Tiger is trying to take responsibility for his actions, and with kids at stake there’s nothing wrong with exploring a reunion. I think it will take time, but Elin should test the waters and see how she feels. If she still loves Tiger and he can prove to be trustworthy let the re-building begin!”

“Of course I believe in forgiveness,” adds Jennifer, 27, of Dallas. “I hope Elin can get to that point.”

If Tiger and Elin end up working out their differences, Nicole, a 21-year-old student from Davis, CA, suggests that Elin may want to turn the heat back on all the way: “Spice things up and take control in the bedroom.”

Expert Advice
Sure it’s helpful to hear what your girlfriends have to say, but sometimes it’s best to call in a pro. So what would an expert say to Elin? “He did not sound like he was saying anything different to me,” says Los Angeles-based psychologist Dr. Morris Halperin of Tiger’s apology on Friday. “There’s a lot of pressure on her. What he did was virtually unforgivable. The only way she can truly forgive him is if she observes a clear change in his behavior. It’s going to take a long time.”

Although Elin Woods has dealt with public humiliation and embarrassment, ironically this former nanny is now in an extremely powerful position. Mrs. Woods has a big decision to make, but she now has the upper hand and can do what she wants on her own time, while the man who is arguably the world’s best golfer has to put all of the determination that he normally uses on the green into saving his relationship with his wife and family. For Tiger Woods, the stakes have never been higher.

Tell us: What advice would you give Elin Woods?

Libby Keatinge is the author of Beverly Hills Tutor. She also writes for international lifestyle publications.

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27 thoughts on “What Should Elin Woods Do Next?

  1. hope_xo says:

    I just feel so bad for her :(

  2. danggirl says:

    My advice woould be to follow her heart. If she feel;s like she should stay and make a go of it, and that he really will make amends, then she should. But if in her heart she knows he can’t, she should go.
    And, um, “Spice things up and take control in the bedroom” — seriously??!

  3. FBNYC says:

    I’d say leave him.

  4. leftygrlac says:

    How is she going to be able to trust him going forward, especially considering the volume of his wretched behavior. How could she avoid the desire to check up on his cell/texts/calendar/travel, and how is he going to feel if he truly does stick to his vows while she still mistrusts him. I guess too bad for him, he made his bed and now he has to lie in it. Good thing is SHE doesn’t have to.

  5. DallasShopperGal says:

    Let’s just pretend for a moment that Tiger’s public apology was actually sincere, I still say she should leave the cheating dirt bag. How in the hell could you be intimate at all with your husband knowing he cheated on you with at least 12 women? And these weren’t even “quality” women, not than any woman who cheats with a married man is quality, but they’re not all porn stars and escorts either. If she even entertains the idea of getting back with Tiger, she deserves no respect from anyone.

  6. DallasShopperGal says:

    Let's just pretend for a moment that Tiger's public apology was actually sincere, I still say she should leave the cheating dirt bag. How in the hell could you be intimate at all with your husband knowing he cheated on you with at least 12 women? And these weren't even "quality" women, not than any woman who cheats with a married man is quality, but they're not all porn stars and escorts either. If she even entertains the idea of getting back with Tiger, she deserves no respect from anyone.

  7. robynallgeyer says:

    Conversations about Elin fail to consider that she has been traumatized. Any woman who discovers her husband has been cheating, compulsively watches pornography or pays for sex has to go through a process in order to heal. Hopefully, she is seeking counseling from an expert in dealing with spouses of sexual addicts. A recent study by Dr. Barbara Steffens showed that 70% of the women partners of sex addicts were suffering from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). The trauma has to be addressed before healing can take place. Dr. Steffens, PhD, LPCC, and Marsha Means, MA, have written a book that is receiving very positive feedback from the counseling community and partners. It’s called “Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal” (New Horizon Press). One of the other mantras in this book is that no woman should go through this alone. Unfortunately, millions do.

  8. bryony1 says:

    Ivana Trump is right; Erin should get everything she can and then get out and go home. Men who habitually cheat habitually cheat for life. Woods likes trashy women, and Erin will find herself with STDs or even AIDS, if she hasn’t already.

  9. blackirish says:

    My best friend’s husband did exact same thing, he got csught, they went to catholic prist, kinda confessed, cried together – and now they love each other madly and are crazy about two young kids, they attend every child’s sports event, support in the family is amaxing, what a wonderful and very happy and new life thye have, get over it you greedy arse women.
    Tiger can do it! Yes, despite what you loosers have to say – love overcomes hate – At the end of the day, I’m so sorry you have such lonely and sad lives that you simply cannot comprehend this scenario being plausible! Tiger & Elin sitting in a tree k i s s i n g now that thought must make you all really feel ill, such sad human beings, and to quote such low life’s a Ivanna Trump and Heidi Hussy, get over it…half of you can’t even spell Elin’s name correctly, move on you numbnuts!

  10. jessica03 says:

    If I were Elin, I would take the divorce. It’s the best for the kids, and for Elin herself. Tiger’s lame apology seems scripted and fake. I mean, how can she trust him after ALL the women his been dating and cheating? If she continues to be with Tiger, their relationship doesn’t deserve to be mentioned on t.v! I have a gag reflex just talking about tiger!

  11. weavergr says:

    I find it very interesting the most of the previous comments were mostly about money ! Is that all a marriage amounts to? Wel, not really.
    Elin should work this out between she an Tiger and not the media or the public. It’s no ones business except theirs.
    It is well know that there are thousands of women available that will hit the bed in a flat second if they think they will benefit financially. Those women who have “stepped” forward did so for one reason in hopes of getting money from a wealthy celeberty. The slut that hired Gloria Alred was one of the first in line with her hand out for money.
    Yep, Tiger strayed but he and Elin should work it out if they wish privately. Keep the money angle out of it. Leave the ho’s with nothing.

  12. blackirish says:

    I gag because it reminds me Samson and Delia, it’s the misuse of power and sex by women does in the men every time, since the beginning of time. Damn snakes. Why not publically cane few of the skanky whorees on Main Street USA aka the Quakers in order to set an example for us church going christian folk. They are evil Sinners, yet they go untouched by TV, newspapers, journalists, basically all of the media and the churches. What we need are a few Zealous preachers to track them down, setup in front of their homes and damn their Wicked souls to HELL!!!!!

  13. brendalmo says:

    I say don’t do anything yet. She needs to pick up the pieces and figure what is right for her. Trust is a hard thing to get back, however it can be earned back, with a lot of work on his part and the will to forgive on her part. If she is not able to trust again, then she will need to leave. She needs to take the time to figure out what is best for her and the kids. They say when part of a couple dies that you should not make any major changes in your life for a year. I would have to compare this to a death. She needs to let the dust fall or his head what ever the case is before she makes any major changes. Here is another lesson for all people, don’t put yourself in the situation where you might be able to cheat that way you know you won’t cheat. Tiger does need to grow up and for his kids I hope he does it fast. Real men don’t cheat … who cares what real men eat.

  14. stargazer24012 says:

    SHAVE HER HEAD AND JUMP OFF A HIGH BRIDGE,

  15. blackirish says:

    I’ve sen her photo shoot, she’s no angel, come on! She is beautiful filly either fully clothed and in the bare, she has the essentials to rock any man on earth, what a prize. He will do whatever it takes to hold onto her. As far as keeping your self out of harms way way, you live on the road, in lavish hotels, have a publically known face, absolutely knock-out great body, fabulous looks, a hugemongeous ego, and a net worth of $500 million, it ain’t that easy baby to be choir boy.. Cigarettes, Whisky and Wild Wild Women every where you go…Maybe a “Preacher” would have a decent chance to suceeed, maybe not, let’s bring Tammy Faye into the fray. There you go!

  16. sidneyanne says:

    Sex addiction is like any other addiction. If he really wants to quit and truly admits he has a problem (to himself, not the press) there might be some hope that he can succeed.

    However… in his position, I’m sure there will always be some women throwing themselves in his path. So the temptation will be strong.

    If I were Elin, and I still loved the man, I’d take a very long time to decide and watch his actions carefully. Addictions can be overcome by most, but it’s very hard for some people. There are others who never can. Only time will tell.

    And I’d sure want regular STD tests. She’s going to come out ahead no matter what she does.

  17. prettygirl945 says:

    What tiger did was virtually unforgivable…But if she loves him and thinks she can rebuild what he destroyed, then she should stay…

  18. allets says:

    Blackirish, at least someone agrees with me. There have been many instances where marriages have survived infidelity and the couples became happier than they were prior to the problem. Love is a many splendid thing. Contrary to popular belief, a divorce is not necessairly best for the kids.

  19. homesteader says:

    Personally speaking ;
    It is no-ones Business other than Elin’s / Tiger’s ,
    Children are far better raised by both Birth Parents .
    End insecurity – Psychodynamic psychodrama caused by Media , who have no idea what Love is .
    Advise from those with Totally no Personal Involvement in the Lives of the Woods’ Family / Brings ” Tar and Feather ” run them out on a rail Done to the Media to My thoughts .
    Let She / He who is Without Sin throw the first stone , Hehe .

  20. mommomof11 says:

    It’s just to sad to think that all Tiger thinks he has to do is make a Formal Apology! There is never a “Good” reason for staying for the sake of the kids. What if later in life the children figured out that their Mother stayed and was unhappy? Wouldn’t they blame themselves for years of Agony? I say, cut your losses and gain some ASSETS!Start over with those Beautiful children,and get a Man who will “Love ” only you!

  21. homesteader says:

    If my memory proves correct ;
    Some of the words / in a marriage Declaration ;
    For Better or for Worse ,
    Till Death do Us Part .
    it will Remain their Family Business / Money does knot buy Love

  22. minerva says:

    I think she should leave him. If it was just one women, maybe it would work out for the marriage, but for God’s sake, it was over 20 different women. What a sleeze. Elin is too good for him. She is so beautiful, she could any man she wanted. One who would treat her the way she deserves to be treated.

  23. firecracker80 says:

    I think Maggie in the article summed it up best. She should allow herself some time to heal before making a decision one way or the other. Whatever her decision is no one has the right to judge her. Hopefully everyone will leave her alone.

  24. BearShamrock0914 says:

    WHO gives a damn about the money?! It isn’t about money its about LOVE! Women who goes for the money are gold diggers. Women like Elin isn’t like that she loves Tiger but she had her heart broken. I agree I wouldn’t forgive Tiger for awhile but I would give him ONE last chance to prove himself in any way. YOU guys don’t have the right to say that Elin should leave Tiger and take his money but at the same time, Elin shouldn’t stay for the kids. BUT DAMN yall gotta BACK OFF

  25. miss_wilson says:

    BearShamrock0914 i think you’re the one that needs to calm down and back off. no one else is using big huge capital letters and everyone on here has the right to say whatever they want to because thats the advice they’d give. and not everyone who goes for money in a in their devorice is a gold digger they probably just want to take something that will make the man hurt and we all know how men like their money.

  26. Wright1 says:

    Elin, My suggestion is stay friends with Tiger but leave him on an intimacy level for a good amount of time to test his commitment. You must acknowledge your self esteem, pain, and allow yourself to heal without the routine of daily life with Tiger. Set the ground rules, boundaries, exactly so there is no question of what is expected. History consistently repeats itself, no matter what the category or situation. Promises are good intentions, however, good intentions without true actions to back them up and commitment never materialize in the direction of successful outcomes. Never feel guilty if your final decision is to protect your heart. Even the Bible states that separation/divorce from a man that cannot commit himself to the marriage bed, and has been proved to cheat, is not judged negatively on the non cheating spouse. I would suggest a period of true independence from the situation until healing and absolute trustworthiness is established. Good luck on this journey, it hurts, and what ever decisions you make, quickly is not the route to happiness.

    God Bless,
    Connie

  27. mcnealystephanie says:

    Don’t people get sick and tired of hounding the couple to see if they are still living apart or living together ? Pls…even if they are living apart doesn;t mean they don’t have physical relationship…On the contary, even if they live in same roof does not mean they have a physical relationship… Let them sort things out either remain or not remain in marriage… I think people are more interested to see how Tiger Woods come back in sports because people just love the story of heroic comeback of once-a-bad-guy…
    Stephanie Mcnealy
    http://www.famous-philanthropists.org

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