Why Good Guys Love Bad Girls

You know how you're attracted to rebels? Turns out men have a similar problem.
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Why Good Guys Love Bad Girls

You know how you’re attracted to rebels? Turns out men have a similar problem.

-Justin DeMarco

Good guy and bad girl

EDITOR’S NOTE: In light of the news about Sandra Bullock’s husband, Jesse James, allegedly cheating on her while she was on location filming her Oscar-winning role, it seems like a good moment to revisit our recent story about why men are attracted to Bad Girls.

Pete is the guy women should want to marry. He’s well-educated, handsome, funny and has made the world his playground, with the stamps on his passport to prove it. But the longest relationship on this 37-year-old bachelor’s resume is one year. The native New Yorker somehow manages to find all of the wrong women in all the right places.

“I’ve dated lots of girls who are trouble,” Pete says. “And ‘trouble’ can mean she’s still married or going through a divorce that’s not quite over… I’ve had it all. One girl had a violent, estranged boyfriend who was still paying for the apartment she lived in. That was just bad news. I don’t know how I meet these girls.”

Pete’s dating life is the equivalent of the movie Groundhog Day. He meets a bad girl, dates her, breaks up with her, and then starts the cycle all over again. “Maybe I cause this to happen because I keep dating the same type of person over and over,” he says.

The bad girls in Pete’s life aren’t the street-corner types Donna Summer sang about way back when. The bad girls Pete has come to know so well seem to be normal. They’re attractive, intelligent, etc. but then all of a sudden – after a few months or maybe even a couple of dates – they open up like Pandora’s Box and let their personal problems and intimacy issues ruin the relationship.

The other defining characteristic of bad girls is that they’re inconsistent. Flirty one minute and distant the next. The type of girl who talks all week about how excited she is to have dinner with a guy but then sends him a text message at 7:50 p.m. saying she can’t make an 8 o’clock dinner. Ouch.

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But if that girl knows how to play the game – when to seduce her man and when to let him long for her – she’s got it made. She’ll have whatever she wants from the guy whenever she wants. It’s the reason guys rip on this type of girl to their guy friends, but secretly wish they were with her instead.

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  1. It’s SO true. Whenever I am not that into a guy (and act accordingly) he chases and chases, even though I have made it quite clear I’m not that interested. When I AM interested, and act like I am too early on, the guy tends to run a mile and be distant.

    So now, guess what? When I like a guy, I tend to be more stand-offish for the first few months, even though inside I may be falling madly in love.

    It’s a shame we have to play these games, and I should add, it’s not always the case (just normally seems to be). But hey, that’s life and human psychology I guess.

  2. Yeah this sounds a lil familiar and after dating a few bad girls and learning the hard way i decided to try a new approach and its been working..instead of being mr nice guy i am now being mr a**hole… and i don’t mean go and slap a girl, i mean don’t treat them like a princess don’t cater to them all the time… and my #1 don’t call or look for them no matter what and trust me if they are in to you they’ll call you in a day or so wondering why you haven’t called or texted them…
    relationships are sort of like a game because you gotta know how to play it right or else its game over..sad but true so if your a nice guy like me try this approach it wont hurt and its been working for me for the past 6 months… girls want a man not a b*tch.

  3. Pete and I are in the same boat sort of lol I’m not as well traveled passport-wise but I seem to be attracted to “bad girls” my latest case would be the lady I’m currently with…

    Yeah I’m really not sure if I should take her friends word at face value because her friend wants to hook up with me but she just dropped a bombshell on me about my current gf now I’m not sure if it’s out of her wanting to be with me or if it really happened…

    Why can’t I just meet a NORMAL girl that isn’t the female version of Tiger Woods?

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