When these five types of toxicity show up, they do so in abundance: 65 percent of women reported having a Narcissist as a friend, 59 percent a Chronic Downer, 55 percent a Critic, 45 percent an Underminer, and 37 percent a Flake. That’s a lot of toxic friends! Furthermore one-third of all the women surveyed actually said that their toxic friend was also their best friend. Surprising, though not as surprising as the number of people who admit to staying in a bad friendship just because it felt too hard to end it. The number? 83 percent. Wow.
Now, here’s the big question: Do we actually need these venomous pals in our lives? The answer may be yes; often, a close friend’s good points will outweigh the bad. But how do you know when it’s time to let a toxic friend go?
Lucy Danziger, SELF’s Editor-in-Chief, says, “Women deal with stress from all over—the economy, their families, their bodies. Friends should be a source of strength, support and positive emotional well-being. If a friendship adds to the overall anxiety you’re feeling, it may be that you owe it to yourself to make a change there.” SELF.com has some tips that may help you figure out whether it’s time to fish or cut bait. It’s not pleasant, but sometimes, it’s just what needs to happen—for everyone’s sake.
What about you, readers? Do you have a House, Moaning Myrtle, Buttercup, Hilly, or Phoebe in your life?
Lucia Peters is BettyConfidential’s associate editor.